Husband obsessed with what I wear

[Taurusseason]

I am at the point of walking out now (not really because of kids).

over the past 3 years my husband has been obsessed with what I wear and telling me what’s inappropriate.

I am under 40 with 3 kids. I have always been into clothes in terms of buying new bits from asos/ people often say I am “glam”. I am not skinny.

Today he tells me it’s inappropriate to wear leggings as it “shows off my body” and he can’t believe I did. I had a day off and wore ribbed leggings with an oversized t shirt which came half way over my bum.

Last summer I remember I wore quite a short Zara non fitted dress but wore shorts underneath just incase. It’s rare I wear short dresses tbh but I really liked this one. He went mad and we had a massive row over it.

Before I go to work he will check what I am wearing, he never controls what I wear but makes comments. I wore a long but figure hugging button up dress a few times and he said it’s not appropriate- girls at work said I looked nice.

I usually wear midi dresses in the week but sometimes I will wear a shorter mid thy dress with black opaque tights. He said married women should wear knee length clothes.

I never have my chest out as I am very self conscious of it having had 3 children.

I wear leggings and a jumper or t shirt if I’m just locally around sorting the kids out. I find fitted bottoms look better as baggy things make me feel like I look bigger as I am not very slim.

I feel like I have had enough of this now.

I dated a man who repeatedly described himself as "old school" ,from 3 months in he was trying to get me to cut out all socialising except with him in a couple, trying to get me out of the workforce (to set up a business in his home) and criticising what he thought I said aid I'd worn (not what I'd even actually worn) on nights out.

He also increasingly called women spinsters, "decent" girls etc etc

I noticed his son was campaigning against freer abortion in Ireland recently. Meanwhile his sons FB I'd full of his latest girlfriend wearing thongs on the beach and in low cut tops. Interesting set of values around women they've got.

I'm sorry, but he sounds like a total knob. He should be proud of how you look not trying to get you covered up down to your knees.

He is controlling you. That's what they do- make out it's for your own good, in your best interests etc. They make you doubt your own perceptions.

I'd get out before your kids see him talking to you like that and grow up thinking us ok for a partner to treat someone that way and that they should tolerate that bs too.

You have a responsibility to model healthy relationships for your kids.

He's controlling and misogynistic. Don't stay. You and your children deserve better than this sorry excuse for a man.

Leave the abusive scumbag. He belongs with the Taliban with an attitude like that. How sad.