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Boyfriends best mate

64 replies

LouLo2121 · 12/05/2023 15:45

Recently set my boyfriends best mate up on a date with one of my close friends. Naturally myself/boyfriend were brought up on the date in conservation. My boyfriends best friend then decided to casually drop into the conversation, that i need a good seeing too....

It took her about 2 weeks to mention it to me as she felt really awkward and didn't want to cause any tension between us all.

I'm really annoyed, but don't know what to make of the comment.... thoughts?

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sussexman · 12/05/2023 15:53

He sounds awful!

Original poster
LouLo2121 · 12/05/2023 15:56

He's been very nice to me over the last 3 years (to my face anyway), and this seems like a really bizarre comment

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AMuser · 12/05/2023 15:57

I’m confused. What does he mean??

justwingingit7 · 12/05/2023 15:58

What does good seeing to even mean? What context...I've heard that be used sexually (she needs a good seeing to aka she needs a good sh*g) or that you need a good seeing to aka violently "she needs a slap!" X

angrygoat2 · 12/05/2023 15:59

As a non-Brit, I'm struggling to understand what you mean by a good seeing to... I did Google and none of the options seem great but not sure which one you mean in this context?

angrygoat2 · 12/05/2023 15:59

Oh okay, not just me then!

KenAddams · 12/05/2023 15:59

Do u walk about with a face like ur needing a good seeing to?

Original poster
LouLo2121 · 12/05/2023 15:59

Seems like he meant sex!

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ghostinthehouse · 12/05/2023 16:00

LouLo2121 · 12/05/2023 15:59

Seems like he meant sex!

Got it... but in a "she's hot i want to sleep with her" way, or in a "she's uptight, she really needs to have sex" way?

determinedtomakethiswork · 12/05/2023 16:01

Is she still seeing him? I think if someone said that about my friend I would get up and leave the date.

Original poster
LouLo2121 · 12/05/2023 16:01

Either way, its not good aha

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TheKobayashiMaru · 12/05/2023 16:02

He sounds awful

Original poster
LouLo2121 · 12/05/2023 16:02

For context, she hasn't seen him after that date - the comment 100% put her off him! Obviously!

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ThatFraggle · 12/05/2023 16:08

If nothing else, he is stupid.

  1. You set up your friend. So clearly you like your friend, and your friend likes you. But he thinks it's a good idea to disparage you behind your back?

A. It will show HIM in a bad light when he's meant to be impressing his date. It either meant you are uptight and you need sex as an antidote, or he fancies you and is volunteering himself to administer the 'seeing to'.

And

B. It will obviously get back to you.

So bottom line, not the sharpest.

You should ask your boyfriend to ask what he meant. See if he is a liar too and claims he said something different.

And then, in all seriousness reevaluate your BF. Birds of a feather flock together and this is his favourite person in the world???

module · 12/05/2023 16:08

Have you told your boyfriend what he said? That'd go down well.

PrestonHood121 · 12/05/2023 16:09

Mention to him (or have your BF do it if you're more comfortable) to never bring you up in conversation like that again. Whatever he meant by it - he can keep his comments to himself.

Tilllly · 12/05/2023 16:11

LouLo2121 · 12/05/2023 16:02

For context, she hasn't seen him after that date - the comment 100% put her off him! Obviously!

Good for her, what a wankpuffin of a man

Ugh

ghostinthehouse · 12/05/2023 16:11

LouLo2121 · 12/05/2023 16:01

Either way, its not good aha

True. I'm sorry about this, it's shit! My OH also had a questionable friend - I initially liked him and set him up on a date with a friend, but he was a complete shit to her. Lesson learned...

Original poster
LouLo2121 · 12/05/2023 16:12

@ThatFraggle my boyfriend is really annoyed, but due to his job hes been working 6/7 days in a row and hasn't had a chance to speak to his mate face to face.

We are planning on getting engaged and he flat he said i'm annoyed someone is talking about my future wife like this

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module · 12/05/2023 16:12

Not sure why he'd insult his best friend, weird.

module · 12/05/2023 16:14

But he's not insulting you OP, he's insulting his friend. I don't get it.

IsThereAnEchoInHere · 12/05/2023 16:15

What odd language and a strange thing to say😧

Does someone actually talk like that?
Well, he does, yeah.

Even weirder to say it to your friend!
Good thing she has standards!

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LouLo2121 · 12/05/2023 16:15

@module i found the whole thing disrespectful, to my friend, myself and my boyfriend.

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Niceseasidetown · 12/05/2023 16:16

I wonder what he was trying to achieve??? How could this possibly have gone down well??

sewerrat · 12/05/2023 16:17

hilarious he sounds a good laugh 😂