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Nonylonneeded · 2023-05-11T19:36:55+00:00

I’m wondering how common this is, and interested in hearing about other people’s experiences. Have you ever encountered a person (whether you fancy them or not!)with whom you’ve experienced a proper physical sensation like an electric shock when they’re nearby, you brush against them?! Like the lightning bolt we always talk about romantically, but have you felt this really physically through your body? I know on all the tv dating shows etc people talk about ‘the spark’, but have you felt the spark like a proper surge of electricity powering through your body? how did it turn out ? I’m not talking nylon static here!

Rinkydinkydoodle · 12/05/2023 23:19

This man once came into the shop and asked for help picking a present.

He was a fair bit older than me, blonde and softly-spoken and as I came out from behind the counter it felt like the world had emptied and I was made of heat and light. Sublime, bewildering, incandescent fucking love- here he was, my husband, the father of my children, the faith and trust I felt for him was so shocking and sudden and perfectly true a little prick of tears started.

He took the CD, said thank you, and we stood for a second in silence. Then I went and rang up his stuff and he said cheerio.

Never felt the like again.

Might have been a past life reunion, might have been the static from my 100% nylon uniform messing with my hypothalamus.

I just hope whoever got him adored him as much as big dumb eighteen year old me did.

bornintheuk2 · 12/05/2023 23:25

Went to visit a pen friend (pre SM dating sites!!) and the minute we laid eyes on each other there was a spark. Pure chemistry and a fair amount of lust. The most amazing weekend ever. Left on the Sunday and never saw him again.

Tidsleytiddy · 13/05/2023 09:03

Onelifeonly · 12/05/2023 20:18

You have reminded me of a guy I met on a course when I was engaged to be married. It was a long course with sessions every so often, so we met several times and bonded over the subject matter. But it felt like it went beyond that. I remember mentioning my fiance deliberately, to head him off but also wishing I was single....... After the course finished I never saw or heard of him again, but I think of him from time to time......

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Yes I get you. It’s so odd and you do wonder how your life might be if things had happened in a different order. Guess we’ll never know x

UnicornsDoExist · 13/05/2023 10:03

Yes, my housemate years ago. I moved in while he was away travelling in Australia. I’ll never forget hearing him opening the front door and my standing at the top of the stairs to see him standing there. It was instant and mutual but we never acted on it. It was torture living in the same house. Then he went and married someone else and broke my heart.

SapphireStar77 · 13/05/2023 10:28

UnicornsDoExist · 13/05/2023 10:03

Yes, my housemate years ago. I moved in while he was away travelling in Australia. I’ll never forget hearing him opening the front door and my standing at the top of the stairs to see him standing there. It was instant and mutual but we never acted on it. It was torture living in the same house. Then he went and married someone else and broke my heart.

Oh no! I was reading this expecting a happy ending!

847arc · 13/05/2023 10:50

Yes, my ex. Unfortunately that was our only area of compatibility!

847arc · 13/05/2023 10:54

847arc · 13/05/2023 10:50

Yes, my ex. Unfortunately that was our only area of compatibility!

And the spark didn’t wear off for either of us, and we were together for several years.

Veronica8 · 13/05/2023 11:14

Interested to hear if any males felt this as reposnes all female I think?
I have this with DH but also with a colleague Very strange feeling.

TheoreticalRefusal · 13/05/2023 11:17

Second date with DP. He put his hand on the small of my back to guide me forward and I was stunned. I had been trying to decide if I fancied him or not.

Together 15years. 2DC

Anotherparkingthread · 13/05/2023 18:21

Happened to me and I did not stay with him. It wasn't last, for those asking. In the end I'm glad we parted ways, relationship was very up and down, we were young and a bit foolish really! Though we are still friends some 16 years later, there's no romantic feelings now at all.

Anotherparkingthread · 13/05/2023 18:22

Anotherparkingthread · 13/05/2023 18:21

Happened to me and I did not stay with him. It wasn't last, for those asking. In the end I'm glad we parted ways, relationship was very up and down, we were young and a bit foolish really! Though we are still friends some 16 years later, there's no romantic feelings now at all.

It wasn't lust *

Isthisblocked · 13/05/2023 19:34

When we met 50 years ago DH I did not feel sparks or lightning bolts, just a strong attraction. We were happily married for 40 years until DH died five years ago. Recently discussing this with a friend who was there the night we met she astonished me by telling me she felt the electric current flowing between us. We were not physically aware of this, but she said she knew at once that this was a done deal... she described it as an electric current and said it felt like sparks but she felt it, we didn’t. Perhaps some people are more susceptible to these subconscious electrical currents.

Greycloudlooming · 13/05/2023 23:08

Yes! Totally unexpected as i am happily married. I sound like a freak writing this as it seems so far fetched…

There is a man, pretty much a stranger. He is not someone who I would find attractive. I do not fancy him.

When I’ve seen him though, there’s been this really strong energy/connection. It sounds out there, but I sense he feels whatever it is I feel too as he becomes avoidant and awkward, as do I.

We made eye contact a few times - each time it’s been really prolonged and lasts for 20 seconds plus. During those times I feel sparks / lightening bolts or whatever it is. I honestly feel like I can’t take my gaze off his during those eye contact times even though all I want to is not look at him or run away. We must look like total nutcases not saying anything but just looking into each others eyes for such long periods of time. I can’t describe it properly, and it usually leaves me feel a mixture of happiness and being on edge for days afterwards. Hence, I try my best to avoid making eye contact with him to avoid whatever it is! And I’m sure he is doing the same.

It is so weird and as I previously stated, no attraction etc other than this weird magnetic pull I can’t describe.

SapphireStar77 · 13/05/2023 23:19

Greycloudlooming · 13/05/2023 23:08

Yes! Totally unexpected as i am happily married. I sound like a freak writing this as it seems so far fetched…

There is a man, pretty much a stranger. He is not someone who I would find attractive. I do not fancy him.

When I’ve seen him though, there’s been this really strong energy/connection. It sounds out there, but I sense he feels whatever it is I feel too as he becomes avoidant and awkward, as do I.

We made eye contact a few times - each time it’s been really prolonged and lasts for 20 seconds plus. During those times I feel sparks / lightening bolts or whatever it is. I honestly feel like I can’t take my gaze off his during those eye contact times even though all I want to is not look at him or run away. We must look like total nutcases not saying anything but just looking into each others eyes for such long periods of time. I can’t describe it properly, and it usually leaves me feel a mixture of happiness and being on edge for days afterwards. Hence, I try my best to avoid making eye contact with him to avoid whatever it is! And I’m sure he is doing the same.

It is so weird and as I previously stated, no attraction etc other than this weird magnetic pull I can’t describe.

I completely get what you mean

SocialLite · 13/05/2023 23:51

Yes, my dh.

When we had our first date we could barely make eye contact, the strength of the connection was genuinely being on painful it was so palpable. I thought it was too good to be true, but it was just as intense on the next date.

When we held hands it was like breathing a sigh of relief, and when we first kissed it was incredible- and I absolutely knew then that it was not going to change.

I know that doesn't even sound believable, like a terrible romance novel, but it's entirely true- and I've never experienced anything like it before.

I'm happy to say I've experienced it since though as nothing has ever changed.

Greycloudlooming · 14/05/2023 00:41

SapphireStar77 · 13/05/2023 23:19

I completely get what you mean

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Thank you! That means a lot as I wrote that out and almost didn’t post because it looks even madder written down! Good to know it happens to / is understood by others too. I did once tell someone and she accused me of having a subconscious crush, but it’s nothing like that at all. It’s like some weird energy attraction rather than a physical attraction.
I just can’t describe whatever it is. It’s very strange. Even more so that we bump into one another in completely random places miles and miles from home.

SarahDippity · 14/05/2023 01:00

Yes.

Tinder date, after I was separated a few years. We didn’t message lots, just arranged to meet. We went for brunch, and when I sat down I could hardly make eye contact. There was a tangible fizz in the air. I have never felt so swept away - there was a connection instantly.

I can’t describe how intense the next few weeks were. I fell head over heels in love.

It was a huge shock when he cooled off after four months. I had been the cautious one, but he was the one to say he loved me first, to ask me to move in, to introduce me to his family and friends. But suddenly … nothing.

that was 2019-20 and I still feel I will never experience the connection I felt then.

It was both the most romantic and the saddest time. I still miss him.

sawandnotseen · 14/05/2023 02:45

Yes, with my exH. We were together 21 years, now split but still friends. I can still recall it vividly.

HouseMoveCollyWobbles · 14/05/2023 04:49

Yes, this happened with my first serious boyfriend. He was in the army and we split up during a tour. A few years later I bumped into him in a bar and we kissed as 'our song' played. It had gone. He asked if we could try again and I said no - I just felt in that moment that it would never be the same, and I didn't want to start again knowing that buzz had gone. My sister who was there at the time was stunned. Not sure many years later of I did the right thing but I just felt in my gut that whatever we had was gone

SapphireStar77 · 14/05/2023 08:10

Greycloudlooming · 14/05/2023 00:41

Thank you! That means a lot as I wrote that out and almost didn’t post because it looks even madder written down! Good to know it happens to / is understood by others too. I did once tell someone and she accused me of having a subconscious crush, but it’s nothing like that at all. It’s like some weird energy attraction rather than a physical attraction.
I just can’t describe whatever it is. It’s very strange. Even more so that we bump into one another in completely random places miles and miles from home.

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Im glad you did post it. Definitely an energy attraction rather than a physical attraction!

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Nonylonneeded · 14/05/2023 09:39

@Greycloudlooming yes the bumping into these people in random places miles from home is part of what made me post! Some sort of weird synchronicity at play?!

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ididntknowthat11 · 14/05/2023 09:54

Kind of.

I worked in a cinema when I was at college.

We would sometimes get sore from standing on our feet all day and we would give each other little back rubs / massages.

There was one guy in our little group, nice young guy, no attraction there at all, just friends.

But Omg when he touched me! I just about melted. It was insane. I don't know if he was just applying exactly the right pressure but it just sent tingles straight through me, to the point where I would desperately look forward to work just to get one of those back rubs, as often as I could, and when I would see him my body would start tingling 😂

Still wasn't particularly attracted to him though but I did wonder what sex with him would be like

I was quite young so never instigated finding out, but 20+ years later nobody has ever had that physical effect on me again. Wish I had given it a go!

SnotSnotSnottySnot · 14/05/2023 09:58

Yes! Twice. Two different blokes (at dufferent times!) Had absolutely nothing in common with either of them but christ on a bike, the sex was amazing.