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Ever felt physical sparky/ lightning bolt feelings?

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Nonylonneeded · 11/05/2023 20:36

I’m wondering how common this is, and interested in hearing about other people’s experiences.
Have you ever encountered a person (whether you fancy them or not!)with whom you’ve experienced a proper physical sensation like an electric shock when they’re nearby, you brush against them?! Like the lightning bolt we always talk about romantically, but have you felt this really physically through your body?
I know on all the tv dating shows etc people talk about ‘the spark’, but have you felt the spark like a proper surge of electricity powering through your body? how did it turn out ?
I’m not talking nylon static here!

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EarringsandLipstick · 12/05/2023 07:26

Yes. First serious boyfriend - I can still remember seeing him for the first time & the physical feeling, nearly of shock.

We were together for 3 years but he was a terribly immature shit, who was basically insecure & frequently treated me very badly

That intense physical connection meant I accepted this far more than I should. So I'd view any similar reaction dubiously.

EarringsandLipstick · 12/05/2023 07:27

OrlandointheWilderness · 12/05/2023 07:21

Yes with DP. The chemistry between us is insane and was overwhelming when we first met. Luckily he is also a wonderful, lovely and very decent man too. We are obviously far more mundane and comfortable now 2 years in but we still have that chemistry. Never had any connection like it.

This is lovely. Envious.

OrlandointheWilderness · 12/05/2023 07:30

Ah @EarringsandLipstick it really bloody is. He's my best friend and we are a team. I did have to wade through some arseholes to find him though 😂

Hotfootgoose · 12/05/2023 07:34

When I met my husband - I seriously knew he was the one. I had been told that some people get a feeling when they have met their soul mate, and I always thought this was crap having never had this in 35 years, but hey ho! I met my dh and I felt my heart go “yep!”

AgnesX · 12/05/2023 07:38

😁Sounds like something out of Mills & Boon.

BanditsOnTheHorizon · 12/05/2023 07:48

Oh yes, fancied this bloke from the minute we met, but I was married so didn't do anything about it. When my marriage broke down we ended up chatting online. Our first date was fantastic and for me the sparks really flew, chemistry was huge. I remember he touched my back when we crossed a road and, it made me go all goose bumpy. We had 18 months of an amazing relationship, but as soon as the sparks fizzled out I realised what a shit he was so ended it.

SaulSobieski · 12/05/2023 09:30

Chatillon · 11/05/2023 20:45

My uncle purchased one of those robotic sex dolls. He instantly felt very lusty towards it, but when he turned it on it started buffering up for a software upgrade. It said "Log out of all other programmes. Do not switch off. Update. Press Enter to continue"

After 15 minutes it was displaying only 21% complete. So he decided to plug in the vacuum cleaner and use that while he was waiting. Unfortunately, there was a split in the lead and a bare wire was sticking out. The oil he had put to one side from the robotic doll (by then buffered up to 46%) dripped onto the bare wire and sent a current through the vacuum cleaner and killed him.

Does that count.

Snorting lol

HarLace1 · 12/05/2023 13:09

If that's an actual spark of lust then apparently I'm constantly attracted to supermarket trolleys.

Heatherjayne1972 · 12/05/2023 13:57

Yes. But he didn’t feel the same
his loss. I’m with someone spectacular now

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Nonylonneeded · 12/05/2023 15:46

Soo it’s not always mutual then, interesting.

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CharlottenBerg · 12/05/2023 15:55

When DP and I had our first sexual encounter (if that doesn't sound too clinical) i had a curious, strong, tingling feeling in my lips when we started kissing. I guess 'electric' is as good a way of expressing it as any (I've never had an electric shock, and hope I never do). Happened lots after that. Also other parts of my body, chest area, hands, neck.

ConstitutionHill · 12/05/2023 16:01

Am I the only one pissing myself at this? Grin

Posypointshoes · 12/05/2023 16:07

Yes with my current partner...that feels weird to type, it's pretty new! But we knew each other since childhood, and then didn't see each other for a bit and when we saw each other again that's exactly how I felt. It sounds cheesy but it took my breath away. Took another nearly two decades for us to get together but here we are...(And I felt that way again on our first proper 'date')

Tidsleytiddy · 12/05/2023 16:17

Many years ago my now DH had a colleague he used to go out drinking with after work. I’d always kind of blamed this bloke for keeping him out so when now DH suggested we meet him and his new gf for a drink I wasn’t really interested or looking forward to it. The minute he walked in the pub I knew he was my person and he knew I was his. Obviously nothing ever came of it but I’ve never forgotten that moment

Thiscrackisverymoreish · 12/05/2023 16:22

Yep, once with someone I met who turned out to be married, then single then married again. Then with DH it was honestly like I'd been hit by lightning. That was 16 years ago and I still feel like that about him.

EarringsandLipstick · 12/05/2023 18:01

The minute he walked in the pub I knew he was my person and he knew I was his.

How did you know he knew this? Did you discuss it?

I don't believe in this kind of thinking at all. Glad you never acted on it.

Tidsleytiddy · 12/05/2023 18:04

Yes, a while after but I was marrying someone else and that was that.

Onelifeonly · 12/05/2023 20:18

Tidsleytiddy · 12/05/2023 18:04

Yes, a while after but I was marrying someone else and that was that.

You have reminded me of a guy I met on a course when I was engaged to be married. It was a long course with sessions every so often, so we met several times and bonded over the subject matter. But it felt like it went beyond that. I remember mentioning my fiance deliberately, to head him off but also wishing I was single....... After the course finished I never saw or heard of him again, but I think of him from time to time......

philautia · 12/05/2023 20:23

Yes but only with one person (we are together thankfully!). There is lust of course but not the same crazy level as early on. It's something else that I can't describe, like electricity - not only sexual. Is they not just really great chemistry you're describing?

Chatillon · 12/05/2023 21:54

SaulSobieski · 12/05/2023 09:30

Snorting lol

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Chatillon · 12/05/2023 21:56

Hang on....fucking broadband has dropped.

Bear with me.

LightDrizzle · 12/05/2023 22:01

Yes! I was about 16 and it was a stunningly handsome doctor on the ward. I went crimson and my heart started racing and as he used a stethoscope to take obs; I was sure he’d guess why I was tachycardic 🤣

He said nothing but moved off pretty sharpish. I’ve never had the same jolt since sadly. It really was physical.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 12/05/2023 22:14

Lust - once. Together five years, incredibly good looking, great sex, but Christ, he was dim.

The thunderbolt - DP on the day he bounced up to me, looked me in the eyes, smiled and said hello. It got both of us at the same moment and we flipped into inarticulate, unable to look at one another, mumbling idiots. Spent months fannying around trying to not acknowledge it, then were walking from venue to pub in a group, the rest of the group melted into the distance - deliberately, they admitted later that they'd been manufacturing reasons to put us closer together because they could see it happening - and he said something, I don't even know what, but I had to stop and lean over because I was laughing so much.

Over a decade later, we still have that feeling just from catching the other's eye, never mind touching. It's not mere sexual desire, it's totally separate and independent to that, it's the buzz of 'us'.

sugarfreegum · 12/05/2023 22:22

Yes, quite a few times. A lot of them just 'surges' with certain people, but twice it has been electric. The first time I was only 19 and could hardly cope with it. The second time I was 30 ish and knew to make the most of it. Neither of them lasted but I look forward to the next time!

Chatillon · 12/05/2023 22:34

Ooo! Fuck, just got a static shock. Ran right up my top when I was approaching climax.