Hi
Wedding talk!!!
We both 50. Been together 8 years.. And this is my second wedding and my partner's first..
We started planning a twilight wedding with all the trimmings and seven bridesmaids, etc etc got to the point of looking at £7000+ we didn't have !
I even got to the point of not understanding how dear it is to feed 80 guests!! That sounds really bad i do apologise but no we stopped ... We're not full of money definitely not in these times!! Was working towards getting a loan out for this....but thought No!
We both woke up one morning and said let's do this , it's about us... We decided to go to a registry office while we are away on holiday in UK without telling anyone.costing £100....it be relaxed just us two...
Now I have three children ( mine from previous marriage) partner don't have any of his own, they are 16, 20, 22. Only youngest lives at home .
We been through alot this year with my eldest and with there attitude etc so not in great place with them at moment ...they moved to a house share now as need to sort themselves out...I still love them obviously there my child but my god what they have put me through in the last year...
We have a week's break end of the year with my two youngest ones...so I thought we could do it then but then my eldest won't come.. their in that mind set definitely not interested , still in a mood over life events..( long story)
So was thinking doing it another time without the kids.. just two of us a hire witnesses...then when home go out for a nice meal to celebrate with the kids...
My mind going around in circles what to do...started off being about two of us .now overthinking....now thinking shall I not bother cos of my eldest going through a selfish state and shall I wait for them to snap out of it so they can come even if it takes till next year or two years....
Advice pls....
Nicoa