Weve not been in a good place for a long time. A good few years. He drinks a lot (daily) and spends a lot of time and money (around £180 a month) on this. I dont drink and spend my time with the kids. Weve been together 23 years. We dont own a house at the moment and are temporarily renting. We do have savings which will be a great deposit for a house each. He wants to buy together, i dont. My gut tells me if i do ill be stuck in this forever and far too much time has been spent already. No sex life. who wants to have sex with someone whose been boozing all night? If i say that to him, he will stop drinking the next night in anticipation and then go on and on and on about sex the whole evening which is off putting. If we go on a night away, he gets drunk and shouted at me last time then still expected sex.
gets angry easily, slams doors, shouts at us all. Will play loud music when pissed/pissed off. Says im boring etc. we live in a terrace house at the moment and i dont want to upset neighbours. He Doesnt do much with the kids. I do school runs, default parent, give lifts, make decisions etc. play dates, activities.
we both work full time. Both have separate pensions.
i just want a clean break with no hassle. Buy own house and live in relative peace!
any ideas of how to broach the subject. Ive trued before but he just says no and argues im no saint etc (i never said i was). I just cant seem to break free. I imagine he wants to continue so he doesn’t have to face up to alcohol issues and have less money for pissing up the wall. Its easy for him currently and he wont want the status quo to change