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Do you miss your other half when you’re not with them?

103 replies

Napoleandynamite · 28/04/2023 17:13

For short periods like when you’re at work, but also if you were away from each other for a week?

I’ve just spent a week away from dh and didn’t miss him a jot, which shocked me! Was glad to see him when I got home don’t get me wrong but now wondering if it’s a sign of something bigger…

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SmellyNelliey · 28/04/2023 19:01

I don't miss him! But he misses me and often sends messages ect telling me how much he misses me even if he's at work! I enjoy my own space when I have it!

bloodywhitecat · 28/04/2023 19:01

I didn't miss him when he was at work, I did think about him though. If we were apart I missed him, it was hell when he was in hospital for almost a month, unable to speak or to figure out how to use his phone to call me or even how to answer a video call.

bloodywhitecat · 28/04/2023 19:11

And I think that when he was discharged home, non verbal with very reduced mobility I missed him even though he was still in the same room. It was weird because, before he was ill, we would sit in the same room and not say much to each other just enjoy each other's company and then, after he was sick and couldn't speak it was like the man I loved was still here but not here.

GreyCarpet · 28/04/2023 19:11

I always think that missing someone is a kind of fear that you won't see them again.

I don'tiss someone of I know I'm going to see them again and when.

I don't miss my children when they not here or when they were young and went away with their dad. I looked forward to seeing them and felt a sense of anticipation as it got close to seeing them again but I didn't really miss them when they weren't here.

I don't 'miss' my partner either. I look forward to seeing him but I don't miss him I don't think.

I also enjoy my own space and company and find it restful to have time alone.

orangeflags · 28/04/2023 19:15

Always miss him when we are apart overnight. Not during the day though

Username24680 · 28/04/2023 19:19

@Napoleandynamite My DH works at sea. 3 weeks on, 3 weeks off. Before we had our DS it was 6 weeks on/6 weeks off.
I used to miss him quite a bit when it was just him and I tbh. 6 weeks was a long time to be apart and often going a week or so without speaking due to phone signal etc. I’d get home from work and miss him because I was craving company.
Since having DS, that’s definitely changed. Obviously I miss him and wish he was here spending time with us but my days are much busier now and I don’t miss him in the same way as I did before 🤷🏻‍♀️ I get home from work, do bath and bed for DS and then put my feet up and watch crap tv without DH moaning 🤣

Ilovelurchers · 28/04/2023 19:19

I miss him if we are apart overnight because I miss cuddles and/or sex. I don't really miss him badly in the day, in fact I wish he would be away a bit more often in the day so I could watch what I want on TV, eat what I want etc. That's a bit bad isn't it when I think about it - sounds like I only want him for his body! Which is not really true .....

CarolDunne · 28/04/2023 19:21

No

DancingWithTheMoonlitKnight · 28/04/2023 19:22

Not really. Apart from having to make my own tea in the mornings.

MumUndone · 28/04/2023 19:24

I love having time own my own, we both work from home so it feels like a treat to have some space, particularly as an introvert.

TedMullins · 28/04/2023 19:25

No, not just for a day or when we’re at work. We don’t live together yet so are apart 3 nights a week anyway. I’ve been on a couple of solo holidays since I met him (out of choice) and he’s been away with a friend, and I missed him in as much as, I’m looking forward to seeing him and I wanted to talk to him every day, but not in the sense of it interfering with my enjoyment or making me feel anxious. I used to feel like that about partners when I was very mentally unhealthy so to me it wouldn’t be a good thing to be consumed with missing them.

TheChosenTwo · 28/04/2023 19:34

Dh just had a long weekend away Friday to Tuesday, I didn’t miss him at all! Don’t get me wrong, it was nice having him back home but I was busy and doing stuff with the kids or working and at no point did I wish him back to fight over the duvet with 😂
he stupidly left his phone at home so other than a text from his friends phone to say they had landed safely and another on the way home I didn’t even speak to him.
I’m fine on my own.

JamSandle · 28/04/2023 19:36

No I don't. I love my own company so just enjoy it when we're apart.

Motheranddaughter · 28/04/2023 19:40

For a few days/a week,not really
We have regular weekends etc away,always glad to see each other after,but do appreciate some time with friends/ family

Tisfortired · 28/04/2023 19:47

I don’t miss him while he’s at work though I am happy to see him when he comes home. I kind of miss him when we’re apart for the night but I’m happy enough in my own company, or with friends. Id REALLY miss him if we were apart for a week.

Together 14 years.

Tilllly · 28/04/2023 20:35

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 28/04/2023 17:20

Sometimes I do, sometimes I enjoy the space.

I don’t think it’s a sign of anything sinister.

Agreed

I don't miss my DH if one of us is away

Tho I feel aggrieved if he doesn't answer my texts immediately when he's away, and texts me too much when I'm away 🤣

UnsureSchool32 · 28/04/2023 20:37

yes he went away for work for three days this week and I cried lol! I also struggled to sleep the day he went. But I came on today and I have an horrid cold.

mindutopia · 28/04/2023 21:38

Not really, no. I love him dearly but I’m a very independent person and like my space. Honestly, I can’t really even imagine missing my dc. I’m sure I would after a week or two maybe? Dh and I used to live on opposite sides of the world and would go 2-3 months between seeing each other and I did miss him then.

But generally no, I don’t really miss anyone. I enjoy doing things and time to myself and it’s lovely to see them again, but can’t say I dwell on it in between. We are very happy together so don’t think it’s a sign of anything really.

pollykitty · 28/04/2023 21:39

Nope.

Rainpuddle · 28/04/2023 21:42

I don't miss mine during the day, at work etc.

However, I am scared in the house at night so if he goes away for work, I miss him! I start missing him if I sleepover at a hen party/night out, so seems to be when I know I'll spend the night without him and won't see him until the next day...

Croissantsandpistachio · 28/04/2023 21:45

No. I've always travelled a lot for work and really compartmentalize. I don't even call or text really- I do to speak to the kids if the time zones align etc, but I'm usually really busy anyway.

Works for us, we're both very comfortable in our own company.

frozendaisy · 28/04/2023 21:55

He misses me more.

Ragwort · 28/04/2023 21:58

No, not at all. We've always spent lots of time apart during our marriage (which has lasted over 30 years) ... DH used to work overseas so fairly long trips abroad. In fact now DH is retired it's quite a challenge being together so much Grin ... fortunately we have our own hobbies, friends and interests, plus we often go away in our own. I am someone who just loves being on my own!

Mutabiliss · 28/04/2023 22:04

Not really. But we've been together nearly 20 years, so the novelty has worn off somewhat 😂 I did miss him when we were first together.

I really like being on my own and rarely am (and we both WFH most days so we're around each other a LOT), so when one of us is away is quite a nice break. I'm glad to see him when I get home though.

tailinthejam · 28/04/2023 22:14

DH once went on a walking holiday, leaving me at home. It was great timing as dc was away doing something else as well. To have the whole house to myself for a whole week - bliss.

Then on day 4 he contacted me to say he wasn't enjoying himself on his own, he was missing me, and he was on the train and coming home....

I welcomed him back with open arms - and ever so slightly gritted teeth!