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I've done something insane for a 38-year old woman - found and bought the signature fragrance of my crush

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BrokeAssLookingBitch · 24/04/2023 11:41

I have a crush on a bloke.

He always smells great, really great. Not like aftershave great. It's not a smell I'd ever been able to pinpoint to being a particular thing he uses like a soap or fragrance or even laundry detergent.

It's just like a generally nice aroma - clean, fresh, kind of warm.

He takes good care of himself so I always assumed it was a nice body spray or lotion or whatever. But it's never felt quite right to actually ask what he uses that makes him smell so good. We're friends but that'd be a very weird conversation.

Anyhow, yesterday I was having a big old browse in the posh body care section at Boots to spend some vouchers I received at Christmas. And I found the smell. His smell. His exact smell. Bottled up all neat and tidy in a little tub of body cream.

So I bought the body cream. And now I'm wearing the body cream. And I can't get any bloody work done because I can't concentrate.

I have form for this kind of behaviour. When I was 14, I found out that a boy I liked used Aussie shampoo. So I convinced my mum to buy me some Aussie shampoo because Sugar magazine had said how great it was for teenage hair.

But I was 14 at the time. And we all do mad stuff when we have a crush at 14. But I'm not 14 now. I'm 38. I'm a professional, level-headed woman. But here I am huffing my own arm like its fucking amyl nitrite.

Large parts of me are cringing at my ridiculous teenage behaviour. It seemed such a good idea at the time when I was swept up in the excitement of the moment. But now I'm sat at my desk smelling like a bloke I want to bang wondering what the hell I was thinking.

Tell me you've also done insane and cringe things when you've had the crush blinkers on.

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Dontbelieveaword · 24/04/2023 11:57

Could you ever be more than friends?

EmmaEmerald · 24/04/2023 12:04

I'm just wondering what the body cream is - sorry.

Chattycathydoll · 24/04/2023 12:07

I was looking for fragrances for OH and found one he doesn’t like, but I think is incredibly intoxicatingly sexy.

So I bought it for me.

I’m doing the same thing as you OP but the man doesn’t even exist. The idea of this fragrance is so hot and it’s a figment of my imagination. OH is indulging me as we don’t live together so he doesn’t have to smell it, and he knows I think he’s hot stuff anyway, but I sprayed this perfume on my jumper and am also huffing it because it smells so …. Argh. Good.

Lifesagamethentheytaketheboardaway · 24/04/2023 12:09

I don’t get it. Don’t you smell very masculine? Do you want to smell masculine when you’re at work?

BrokeAssLookingBitch · 24/04/2023 12:10

the cream [[https://www.boots.com/sol-de-janeiro-brazilian-bum-bum-cream-150ml-10318263?cm_mmc=bmm-buk-google-ppc--PLAs_HeroCompare--Catch_All--UK_Smart_Shopping_Catch_All&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI5cXczK_C_gIVkNDtCh1m9w4REAQYAiABEgIa7PD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds www.boots.com/sol-de-janeiro-brazilian-bum-bum-cream-150ml-10318263?cm_mmc=bmm-buk-google-ppc--PLAs_HeroCompare--Catch_All--UK_Smart_Shopping_Catch_All&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI5cXczK_C_gIVkNDtCh1m9w4REAQYAiABEgIa7PD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

Smelling like this bloke isn't going to be cheap. It might have to be a very occasional indulgence rather than a daily routine.

@Dontbelieveaword We could be. Potentially. But I'm not actually sure I want that, despite all appearances in the OP.
A relationship wouldn't work - we're at different places in life. And I wouldn't risk a sex fling ruining our friendship.
I'm actually pretty happy just crushing on him, spending time with him, looking adoringly at his socials. And now smelling like him apparently 😮

Sol de Janeiro Brazilian Bum Bum Cream 150ml - Boots

Buy Sol de Janeiro Brazilian Bum Bum Cream 150ml and Collect Advantage Card Points when you spend £1.

https://www.boots.com/sol-de-janeiro-brazilian-bum-bum-cream-150ml-10318263?cm_mmc=bmm-buk-google-ppc-_-PLAs_HeroCompare-_-Catch_All-_-UK_Smart_Shopping_Catch_All&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI5cXczK_C_gIVkNDtCh1m9w4REAQYAiABEgIa7PD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

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VincentVaguer · 24/04/2023 12:11

That's a women's cream. I bought it for dd for her birthday. Or at least unisex.

Fromage · 24/04/2023 12:11

When you say you have form for this behaviour - might it be limerence?

BrokeAssLookingBitch · 24/04/2023 12:11

@Chattycathydoll Oh that's incredible, I love that.

@Lifesagamethentheytaketheboardaway It's not a very masculine fragrance. Just nice. Clean and warm. I work at home most of the time anyway.

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YukoandHiro · 24/04/2023 12:12

Ha ha I did this with Pantene and the bf I had with long, gorgeous smelling hair. He looked like Brian Molko. But I was 15....

OP, unless he's married just ask him out! Seriously, what's there to lose?

VincentVaguer · 24/04/2023 12:12

And you can get a perfume of it if you want to!

Redebs · 24/04/2023 12:12

It sounds a wee bit stalker-y to be honest.
I know smells are extremely evocative and are closely associated with emotional memory, but just check yourself from going weird on him.

mintbiscuit · 24/04/2023 12:13

£35???!!!!! For moisturising cream???

I need to get a whiff of this stuff

aParsnipByAnyOtherName · 24/04/2023 12:13

sorry <snigger> bum bum cream <snort snigger>
that's my 14 year old self coming our Grin

I do get it though OP, I'm still looking at my crush for the past year at work.

VincentVaguer · 24/04/2023 12:14

It does smell nice, it's famous for being a nice smell. Not for me, but dd loves it

EmmaEmerald · 24/04/2023 12:15

OMD
now I wish I hadn't asked!

MichelleScarn · 24/04/2023 12:15

Sorry but glimmery, shimmery bum bum cream?

MichelleScarn · 24/04/2023 12:16

And £35 for it?! 🤯

BreviloquentBastard · 24/04/2023 12:16

That stuff smells amazing so I don't blame you for huffing your arm.

BrokeAssLookingBitch · 24/04/2023 12:16

@VincentVaguer Oooh perfume. Stop it. I need to stop this ridiculous behavior, not buy more stuff that smells like a random fella I fancy!

@Redebs I know, right?! Insane.

@Fromage Nah, my form for this behaviour was from when I was 14. I think it's fine. 😂

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TheSaturdayAfternoonnessOfIt · 24/04/2023 12:16

This way madness lies ...

BrokeAssLookingBitch · 24/04/2023 12:18

@YukoandHiro Nah, I'm actually pretty happy with my crush. A relationship wouldn't work and I don't want sex to ruin our friendship. So, nope, no plans for asking him out.

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MouthfulofMidwinter · 24/04/2023 12:18

So, let me get this straight -- he shimmers, as well as smelling powerfully of guarana?

BrokeAssLookingBitch · 24/04/2023 12:19

@MouthfulofMidwinter I've never noticed shimmering TBH.

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Belmondo · 24/04/2023 12:21

This is fine, don't overthink it.

mrsblueskyeye · 24/04/2023 12:23

Thank you for making me laugh during my crappy day at work. I'm not sure whether to be glad or sad I am now too old for these crushes, I do still think 'what a lovely looking lad' but now have absolutely no intention of taking it further (or smelling like him).

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