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My adult son and his gf are always whispering to one another

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Daniella12 · 19/04/2023 09:24

Can I have advice please? My son is in his twenties and lives with his girlfriend. When they visit they are annoyingly couply. Always wedged together, holding hands on the sofa and lots of whispering and meaningful eye contact when we are in the room with them. Him whispering, ‘You okay?’ I find it rude and excluding. They have been together for 3 years.

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Tirrrrred · 21/04/2023 06:13

I hate all that daft affection. Staring into each others eyes. Sitting close on the sofa.

I can't stand whispering. My DDS do it to me so their sister can't hear. I tell them to stop. It makes people around feel uncomfortable.

It's fine they love each other but they need to show some respect.

Does she have anxiety and he has told her he won't leave her side and he's just checking up on her?

LBFseBrom · 21/04/2023 06:23

I would think they are just in a world of their own but after being together three years they need to come up for air sometimes, especially when in company.

LBFseBrom · 21/04/2023 06:27

OhGingleBells · 19/04/2023 11:42

Behave in the exact same way with your partner and see how they like that! Most likely they really won’t enjoy seeing you holding hands, whispering and making meaningful eye contact!! Probably best not to invite anyone else while you’re trying it though 😉

That is such an excellent idea! Please do try it, op, if you can't face the plain speaking (though I do think that would be better).

LBFseBrom · 21/04/2023 06:32

Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 19/04/2023 12:20

Have you got a partner or friend you can have round when they next visit so that you can whisper to them to make your son and gf realise how rude and irritating it is

I wondered about that. It might be a good idea to have someone, or even two people (pre-warned), at your house when they come, if only to see if they behave in the same way.

Do you know if they are they like that at her parents' house?

LBFseBrom · 21/04/2023 06:40

Mari9999 · 19/04/2023 12:13

@Aylestone
Again the question, if they were invited to his boss' house for dinner, would they feel the need to" act in love?". As adults, do they not need to behave as adults in an appropriate to time and place manner?

I didn't mean to post, with quotes, umpteen times on this thread but have been reading back.

That's a good suggestion, Aylestone, but the op said the couple do the same wherever they are regardless of who is there.

It seems so silly for two people in their twenties who have been together for three years. I have seen it with teenagers though generally the boys are not so publicly amourous, they feel embarrassed.

GoodChat · 21/04/2023 06:45

Sometimes it's awkward when people are visiting you don't know too well and you feel like you can't excuse yourself for a drink or the toilet.

Although, my brother and sister both do this with their respective mid-long term partners and I think it's just an affection thing. They don't realise it makes others uncomfortable.

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