Did anyone leave their kid(s) with their dad?

[reddwarfgeek]

Feel free to search my other threads. My relationship is awful. Has been for years . Partner never pulls his weight, we don't like each other, separate beds, he's selfish and always goes abroad to see friends or gets drunk at the football. I do all of childcare and house work. Counselling hasn't worked. He won't leave the house and I've been thinking of leaving with Dd.
DD and I were very close but lately she has started saying she hates me and wishes it was just her and her dad. I've fallen into trap of me doing the donkey work and being the disciplinarian and he swans in , gives her some cuddles for half an hour and he's flavour of the month.
She's been really nasty to me the last couple of days saying she hates me.
I'm wondering now if I should leave her with her dad, at least in the short term? I'm absolutely sick of the pair of them. She doesn't sleep well even at 5, is spoilt and possibly on the ADHD spectrum.
I've not slept well and am off for Easter holidays so judgement may be clouded. I may be being irrational but at this moment I'd happily be free of the pair of them. If he's so great let her see what it feels like?

You need to leave him and take her with you. Her father is doing this to her. And the longer she's with him the more damage he will do to her. Not just in the sense of making her appear to have you, but in her relationships with others.

She is growing up in the most awful of atmospheres..And at one of the most important stages of her life, she is learning that adults are not to be trusted.

You can save her from this, and then your relationship can be repaired. There's no hope of that while he undermines you all day every day.

She's five. You can still have influence. Leave her with him and you'r6e deliberately leaning her in a toxic and damaging situation, and you'll never be able to same your relationship.

Get help to leave him and save your child from him.