Falling pretty bad

[chocolatethorntan]

Hi everyone I am just after some opinions of what things that happened last night could mean.

Me and this man have had a huge crush on each other for a whole year. We finally got together lastnight for drinks and ended up back at his house kissing , cuddling but no sex
He said he didn't want to excuse the language f--k me or use me but wanted to make love to me but his sister was visiting and was down stairs . Would you take this as true ? He said he respected too much .

Thankyou

I'm confused as to why you're confused?

Well, if you put the boot on the other foot - would you want to shag someone for the first time if your brother was downstairs?

I wouldn't be able to stop thinking 'my brothers downstairs'.

Take it as a good thing you didn’t have sex on the first official date. Only you know if it was an excuse or not. Has he arranged to see you again?

I would feel pleased about what he said and I would believe him.

No, only he knows.

@chocolatethorntan , how do you expect us to know? My brother told me yesterday that he was going to paint his lounge. Do you think he meant it?

Who said romance is dead...

“He said he didn't want to f--k me or use me but wanted to make love to me but his sister was visiting and was down stairs”

How noble of him.

Make love? Sorry, I’d have pissed myself laughing at that and called him Swiss Tony.

If his sister hadn’t been downstairs which one would have happened? Would he have fucked you, used you or made love to you?

TBH, a guy saying this to me after just one date would have me questioning whether his interest in me was just lust or if there was an actual emotional attraction to me as a person.

I think, him even saying that is showing a lack of respect and telling you exactly where his mind is at.

Make love. eeew.
His whole phraseology has given me the ick.

If I were you, I would be making myself really unavailable now. Just distance yourself and see if he pursues you