How would you feel if your DP/DH told you to....

[Washersaurus]

.."improve your attitude and to show him some respect"?

Furious, would tell him to look to himself first

I'd snigger TBH.

I'd tell him he'd need to earn my respect first

depends how bad my attitude was and whether he deserved any respect.

Sounds like something my dad would have said to me.

i would tell him to piss off and sort his stuff out before talking to me again.

Are you ok?

After I'd stopped laughing, you mean?

I would feel like sticking my tongue out at him and deliberately NOT showing respect.
Tis the kind of thing said by someone who doesn't deserve respect.

Laugh like a drain!

I would wet myself laughing if DH said this.
What does he think you've done then?

mortified, I must have been behaving really badly.

Mind you if he said it and I hadn't then I'd be furious.

Why did he say it?

what did you do?

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Is he a headmaster?

I'd ask him why he was talking like Jeremy Kyle.

I'd fart in his face when he was asleep
It would be a bit red rag to a bull with me and I'd deliberately do something ultra childish.....

Sounds a bit 'control freaky' to me!

I haven't done anything, except being me. It is just something DH says A LOT lately.

I feel it could be related to me being a SAHM and him being the 'breadwinner'. The dynamic of our relationship has taken a sorry turn, but that is a whole different discussion.

I have to say it does really get my back up.

I'd figure out who had captured him & sent in such a foolish stunt double

It would make me want to punch him!

don't let him talk to you like this just for being you.

I like Wisteria's solution.

I'd hoot with laughter and spend the rest of the day being as insultingly servile as possible. 'Ooh, yeth thir. ANd thall I wipe thy heaving great arthehole ath well?'

Anyone who demands 'respect' in that fashion deserves nothing but derision. Because that way of thinking is really based on an idea that men, particularly white men, are superior to everyone else just by dint of being white men, and therefore should be obeyed and deferred to. ANd if it's not a white man talking like this, it;s some other bigoted dumbfuck who thinks that their race/class/bank balance makes them superior to everyone else despite the fact that they are dumb and ugly and probably smell.

Dh was like that for a bit after i had ds2 (our first together).

I went away to see my nan for 4 days alone. Day 2 he rang and said i am never going to be an arse to you again about being a SAHM - he was going potty

He hasn't said anything since (3 years ago) and is now fab Do a runner for a few days; he will learn

If i was on AF i would probablt tell him to p*ss off. If not i would ask what i had done, or quote a list of ways in which he hasn't shown me respect - but then i am a mardi cow.

Agree with scorpio1 the other alternative is to be ill for a few days, so he has to be Mum. He'll soon change his tune.

My dp goes on about 'respect' too. He feels he doesn't get any from me or the kids.
He has a point