How would you feel if your DP/DH told you to....

[Washersaurus]

.."improve your attitude and to show him some respect"?

I get that and worse frequently, upsetting as it is in the terms I usually recieve, I usually wait until there is a brick wall between us and pull lots of faces and give lots of 'the finger'. Juvenile, but certainly lets off steam. Definatly like some of the suggeations, and will try them out. Off for a good guff now....

im sorry but i would stick around for more than 2 minutes with anyone who would consider speaking to me like that. even if they had the most delightful dick in the world !

would NOT

doh

Laugh in his face!! What a comic!

Tell him to eff off, put your feet up and have a glass of wine!

i would tell him that by demanding respect he automatically lost it, and would let him know when he had earned it back

I would ask him if he's like some broccoli as a side order with his cuntishness.....

twat

What a twonk.
Sounds like a character from a Dickens novel!
What is he some sort of closet victorian?

I'd wonder if something else was going on somewhere to make him feel he's not respected

eg at work, with friends

I mean, I guess if you're happy in most other areas of your life you can take a bit of a bashing at home but when things go wrong you can look at your family and think hey this is all part of the same pattern

sorry for not calling him a twat and a cunt but could there be more to it?

You ask if other posters' DPs would ever say things like that. But I don't suppose he just came out with it, without some sort of run-up. I mean, has he always been husband of the year material, who has had a momentary loss of sanity? Or has he been slipping into a pattern of disrespect, culminating in this load of s*. Either way, you need to put him straight.

I'd stop talking to him.

i think if my dp said that i would laugh at him !!

i would tell him to fark right orf

Oh dear! Poor you. I'm with everyone else on here - what a wanker, but there must be a reason why he has started acting this way. Not that I'm excusing his behaviour, he certainly needs putting in his place, but is he possibly having problems at work?

Are you able to sit down and have a serious talk with him or has he always been like this?

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My XP said similar things to me on a number of occasions - hence he is my XP.

I would post on here and then I would print out all the answers and show them to him. While laughing in his face, obviously.

I have had a 'chat' with DH and mentioned that I don't appreciate him demanding my respect routinely...He just simply said that I don't give/show him enough respect.

He is a wonderful husband, who works very hard to support our family, unfortunately he sometimes forgets that WE are a team and are (supposedly) equals.

I think I will keep this thread to show him when the subject next crops up

Washersaurus - did you ask him whether he thought he showed you enough respect?