Estranged divorced parent behaviour

[HotelNotPortofino]

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One parent died very recently and the other I’ve been estranged from for decades, with very good reasons.

I thought I’d be the bigger person and inform them of their death, and also enquire if they would fulfil agreement made during their divorce about joint life insurance.

First contact for years was, show me the exact clauses in their will and I deny you permission to fulfil their express wishes and legacies. If you don’t, I will deny you access to another bond the deceased had forgotten the other was still named on.

I am so tired of their games.

But it is a lot of money, in 6 figures, that could go some way towards the bills and taxes I have to pay.

Should I suck it up and attempt to be cordial to someone I completely despise, or let them continue and allow them to steal essentially from my recently deceased parent and me?

That is hurtful OP. Do you need legal advise on this seeing they are making some threats regarding practicalities?

I am taking legal advice

But don’t expect to hear anything until after Easter and the bank holidays

In the meantime they currently have the ‘right’ according to the bond provider to clear all funds and potentially could do this on Saturday. I have raised a formal dispute and complaint with provider.

They are a classic narcissist and have form for doing similar before.

Deceased parent had dementia and I had POA, but we had no idea they were still named as neither had received any letters, hence my complaint.