How long were you on OLD before you met your match?

[DogLove3]

Hi everyone,

After recently breaking up with my partner of 3 years, I’m back on an online dating app. I find that I get frustrated within 24 hours because I don’t find anyone that meets the criteria (1) attractive but doesn’t seem to love themselves, (2) friendly but not too clubbing and drinking-orientated, (3) open-minded, and (4) not immediately too weird/sexual (“you would like my physical touch 👀”)

How long were you on OLD before you met a good match?

Start to finish weeks.

8 months.
Had some nice chats and a few dates in that time but nothing worked out long term.
Found the "one" march 2020 haven't looked back since.

General advice I have is only continue with OLD if its fun.

About a month.

6 months. Before that I'd a couple of dates and some fun chats

5 weeks sorry.

The full year I'd paid for. I'd given up, and hadn't logged in for ages. I finally logged in to make sure I'd clicked 'do not roll over subscription', had a quick look around, and met my partner then.

Up until then I'd had quite a lot of people make contact, but none were my type, and quite a lot just sent emojis or 'Hi!', when my profile specifically said 'I do not respond to emojis or messages that just say hi.' I ignored them. My partner stood out by a mile, and still does.

I recently joined after a 15 year relationship ended about 9 months ago.

Matched with someone the day I joined. Chatted a bit, met up 2 weeks later and have had 4 dates and it's going really well.

He was the second person I swiped on. 😂

A few weeks. Tinder if that helps.

I was on it for about a year and met a load of weirdos and a couple of nice people where there was no spark.

Then I got together with my now husband who had been sitting there in the background of my existing friendship group the whole time.

On and off for 7 years 🤣 never went past a 3rd date with anyone. Have been with 'the one' now for 7 months

4 months. Knew the moment we started talking he was special. Fell for him the moment we met 48 hours later. Married just under 4 years later. He's had lots of girlfriends and meetings with women. It used to worry me but he was single for years. I just extrapolate what I got up to in 5 months to what he did in several years.

3 years........

I had plenty of dates but no decent match until I had been single for 3 years

That lasted 9 months then fizzled out.

Then back on for another 2 years and a lot more mediocre dates before meeting current DP

I've been accused of being too fussy but I was adamant not to settle til I found "the spark"

8 years and still not found the one. Maybe it's me!

3 months .

4 years. Tonnes of dates and flings, a couple of relationships up to a year, made a couple of good friends but it really took time to find my DP whom I wouldn't change for anything. That did cross lockdown and quite a big location move though so perhaps less straightforward than it could have been.

Both my wife and I were on an app for about a week when we met. Been together 12 years now, married for 10.

Just over 5 years and still no sign of 'the one.' I don't know how other people just manage to meet people and have a relationship, it just seems beyond me 😩

It's just luck, and making sure people know you're available. The more people know you're available, the more luck you're likely to have.

5 years with a couple of shorter relationships in between.

5 years

10 years. Had lots of dates and some short (and bad) relationships over that time but it took a decade to meet someone I really clicked with and ticks all my boxes

About a year, went on some terrible dates and some good ones.

Gave up after two years of weirdos, did meet DH via the internet but a message board with a shared interest rather than a dating app.

On and off for six years. Had a couple of short relationships from old during that time, and also one with someone I met irl.