How long were you on OLD before you met your match?

[DogLove3]

Hi everyone,

After recently breaking up with my partner of 3 years, I’m back on an online dating app. I find that I get frustrated within 24 hours because I don’t find anyone that meets the criteria (1) attractive but doesn’t seem to love themselves, (2) friendly but not too clubbing and drinking-orientated, (3) open-minded, and (4) not immediately too weird/sexual (“you would like my physical touch 👀”)

How long were you on OLD before you met a good match?

4 months once I was truly open and ready to meet someone.

Been 3.5 years and I’m still searching 😭

About 4 weeks when I met my now partner of 8 years. I continued to go on dates for a few weeks after we met because it doesn’t do to put all your eggs in one basket where OLD is concerned, and I’d paid for 6 months so I wanted to get my moneys worth! But I knew, and he knew, and after a month we decided we wanted to be exclusive and came off the app.

A week

10 years ago now I was online for about 5 months, had quite a few coffees maybe a dozen then one day out the blue I met someone who I clicked with. 10 years later we are headed towards our first wedding anniversary. Both mid 50's now and had been single for 5-6 years before OLD brought us together.

I married my only OLD match, I think I was on the site about 1 month total.

❤️

6 years and still looking...

About 3 years OLD and possibly met every weirdo going. Then met my husband online and we've been married 16 years.

I was on there for about 7 months all in, but that 7 months includes seeing someone for 4 months.

I married the next one!

I joined one Sunday afternoon when I was bored and hungover. We started talking within the hour, first date a week later, both came off OLD after second date, decided to make a committed go of it a month later after a 4-5 dates and now been together just over 6 years.

Er 24 hours! Must be a record, got a meet arranged next week. Generally about 4 weeks to a couple of months. Have to say its pure luck and I'm expecting there will be something wrong with him - might be a tad dull perhaps? I'm trying to keep an open mind. Nice chats so far - getting to know you stuff, no flirting - seems daft to me that before even met. Slim, goes to gym, eats healthy, but appreciates a pint as I do - and about 4 years younger than I am 😉

4 months, been together for 3.5 years now and bought a house!

About 2 weeks until I swiped on my now fiancé and then another 2 weeks until we went on our first date. After that I didn’t use it anymore as we were enjoying each others company. 4 years later we are now engaged and due to be married this year :)

Under 30 most people shack up quickly probably better "candidates" on offer, less jaded etc. Over 35, woman get panicky and go for anyone (that they most likely wouldn't have touched with a bargepole).

A day. He was one of the first people I swiped on tinder.

About 3 years on and off. Some lovely dates and dalliances in that time, some not so lovely dates and a whole haunted mansion's worth of ghosts.

I logged on to delete the apps after a solo holiday that had boosted my confidence in myself, one last swipe for old times sake; matched, met him the following weekend, moved in 3 months later 'for lockdown' and 3 years on we're married.

2 months, hit it off straight away

4 months.

A few months. I was getting such inappropriate messages and being liked by men I had no interest in that I turned my profile into 50% boundaries of what I did not find acceptable and what I want out of life. Then had fun watching myself get blocked. You can see on Match, even though they say you can't. Then I met someone who liked what he saw. We met on a socially distanced walk and sat on opposite ends of a bench and put the world to rights. We've just had our third Xmas together.

Good luck OP. the decent blokes are out there.

I always read the positive posts and think I should give it another go(the two I did meet were lovely but not at the same stage as me) but when I do I last 24 hours before I get bored of making small talk with someone who has no intention of meeting.

I find it such hard work but in normal everyday life I have no problem talking to people, I'm a confident, sociable person. Put me in a pub and I can quite happily chat to any guy there.

He was my 21st date over about 18 months

I was his 1st date after joining the week before.

Been married 11 years now

I never found anyone. I used OLD in my mid-40s on and off for about 3 years.

I had many dates but the amount of casual sex seekers/weirdos/bores/alcoholics/perverts/misogynist/women haters/open relationship seekers/liars was unbelievable...

I gave up in the end and will never use it again.

I know some people have managed to find decent partners that way and it is probably easier if you are in a younger age range, but to me it was absolutely awful and I did try a few sites/apps so I gave it a good go.

Joined in the September had 4 lots of dates in the 8 months on it that went nowhere, a 3 month thing and then in the May met someone. Still with them nearly 2 years on. I was quite strategic about it though and dedicated a bit of time to it.

About 2 month's, 10 dates and then the one. Been together 10 years in May