Stick or Twist

[Vivacious78]

Have been married 20 years and just feel, after intensive therapy that I deserve better. I'm not sure I can stay with my husband for the rest of my life. I've recently become very hormonal and sexual- very conscious of being a woman. My husband seems more of a boy than a man but he is trying so hard. Thoughts?

Talk to your therapist

If you're not happy, you're not happy. There's a million men out there who might try so hard, it doesn't mean they'd be right for you.

Therapist says basically I need to decide whether to stick or twist. Husband says we cannot afford a 2nd home

What's a second home got to do with it?

If we separate

Just leave.

More context is needed

Hubby says he loves me. Very committed. I'm just not feeling it. He has always lit his pleasure first and been quite selfish. I don't enjoy his company and am not even sure I like him as a person anymore.

Can you really call him selfish when in your first post you say he’s trying so hard, he’s committed , and you’re the one looking to bail on him?

There’s someone selfish in the marriage, but it isn’t him

So your heads been turned.