Back story.
Started seeing a guy last year in may . Not my usual type .
We dated once and I said he was friend zoned . He was studenty, lanky , science teacher type , hippy , unconventional.
He was really quite manipulative and told me that had made him cry because he really liked me etc , and we started hanging out , relationship developed and I really came to like him . The sex was very good . He told me he was diagnosed with ASD as were his kids . I met them . Things were quite intense then one day he just dropped me . Said he realised he didn't actually have any real feelings for me at all and had just craved the comfort and stability of a relationship. He had been using hook up sites and swinging sites previously He was going into therapy And that was that . He got embroiled in another relationship quickly and we stopped any communication. He also told me I wasn't dynamic enough for him and didn't have enough outside interests or enough friends for him to benefit from a relationship with me . This actually hurt me more than I expected.
A year almost on he messaged to say he is newly single and would I like "casual sex" from time to time . That he is reaching out to "nice" people to "have his needs met while he has more therapy and seeks a new relationship!
After picking my jaw up off the floor given the sheer brass neck , I did briefly consider it . (Only because the sex at the time was good and quite eye opening!)
But I sent him a message back saying initially I friend zoned him , and I was seemingly right . That he had misled and used me , and that the more I know the less attractive I find him . I said I think all you need is an alternative to a wank , and I will not be reduced to that . That I am comfortable in my own skin , and that he would actually make my skin crawl now knowing what I know . That I need to find someone attractive to even consider having sex with them , and I do not find him remotely attractive and no - I do not want casual sex from time to time . I find him a turn off .
I am not usually cruel - but he appears to need thing's spelling out on the most basic level there is - as he did with me when telling me his feelings for me were fake and dropping me like a hot brick .
He actually responded with "ok fair enough x". !
I know the bigger person thing to do would have been no response but , he had really hurt my feelings and this felt like insult added to injury.
Ive remained single as I just felt dating was pointless. (I'd had a lot of dates to that point and I then decided to concentrate on myself , my own happiness, hobbies , friends and forget about trying for anything romantic) he really made me question my own life at that point - why wasn't I dynamic, with more hobbies . I had my career , and friends , but he made me feel boring and dull.
Ive worked on this for the past year developing social circles , hobbies , etc .
My previous messages to him (until I asked him what he wanted an why he had got back in touch ) were pleasant and friendly.
But he has wound me up and I couldn't resist telling him a few home truths.
They do say revenge is a dish best served cold . And it actually felt rather good .