Not even sure where to begin with this one... I went to download my husband's check stub last week, like I always do. But when I went into his email account there was an icon on the sidebar lit up with a red dot. When I took my mouse over to it there were chats between my husband and 2 other women. I read the chats, they basically send him pic's (nothing obscene, but risque) and every now and then he sends them a $20 gift card. Of course, these women have asked for new phones, or money for this and that. He tells them that his priority is to his family first, he doesn't have a lot of extra funds, but he would help them when he can. He then sends a pic with the gift card & receipt (from our local stores) scratched off and I guess they can access it from there. He tells them that he's been thinking about them, misses them, has pet names for them, when they ask what he's doing, he tells them spending the day with his wife (me) or watching TV with me, etc. I haven't said anything to him, as far as he knows I am oblivious to what is going on. I can't seem to wrap my head around this at all - we have a great sex life (multiple times a week), great finances, never argue, always on the same page about everything in life. We are both older in age with grown children from previous relationships. I'm at a loss - I have searched for these women on social media and obviously they don't exist. They are not located anywhere around us. We talk to each other every morning when I go to work, I call him when I get off work and we talk until I get home, when he get's off work he's calling me and chit chatting about his day. He's always where he is supposed to be. What is going on? Do I let him know what I have found? Do I just keep monitoring it? I'm lost here, and I'm hoping someone can give me some insight...