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Partner may be in love with another woman

83 replies

greyisdull · 06/03/2023 17:07

I have no proof just my gut and some sketchy behaviours.
Can you read and give me your honest opinion please.

He thinks she is the bees knees.
He's always texting her .. memes and funny's and then more serious stuff related to work.
He tells her about us.
He tells her our plans.
He hugs her and I've heard hold her hand when out together.
I was told that on a night out he spent all his time at the bar with her despite lots of others in the party.
I've heard he's had his arm around her , Like protecting her in the rain and on nights out.
I've only met her a handful of times where he is very attentive but attends to me more.
She is widowed and older.
Not his type at all.

OP posts:
jemimapuddlepluck · 07/03/2023 20:15

greyisdull · 06/03/2023 17:07

I have no proof just my gut and some sketchy behaviours.
Can you read and give me your honest opinion please.

He thinks she is the bees knees.
He's always texting her .. memes and funny's and then more serious stuff related to work.
He tells her about us.
He tells her our plans.
He hugs her and I've heard hold her hand when out together.
I was told that on a night out he spent all his time at the bar with her despite lots of others in the party.
I've heard he's had his arm around her , Like protecting her in the rain and on nights out.
I've only met her a handful of times where he is very attentive but attends to me more.
She is widowed and older.
Not his type at all.

Holy shit. You wrote about this ages ago from your own perspective. I remember because I could sense a deep deep loneliness and i felt so sorry for you. I cant believe you have just described yourself as the bees knees 😳You need help. This is seriously strange behaviour and quite frankly you need to leave this couple alone.

MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake · 07/03/2023 20:22

well that's quite the plot twist.

yikes

FiddleLeaf · 07/03/2023 21:48

MsDogLady · 07/03/2023 06:52

@cillygelly

www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4732688-close-male-friends-partner-doesnt-seem-to-like-me?page=1

This new thread feels like a reverse to me, like the Friend is seeking validation that she is his priority.

Yesss! This is the one it reminded me of too

OP, he’s not worth this much thought.

Thekirit · 07/03/2023 22:21

FiddleLeaf · 07/03/2023 21:48

Yesss! This is the one it reminded me of too

OP, he’s not worth this much thought.

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Help please
Just to clarify because I’m getting confused now.
Is the assumption that the Friend wrote the earlier post, linked above, it does read as such.
And the Wife has started this post.
Or
Is the assumption that the same person has written both posts pretending to be one.

Fairly new to MN, don5 know if this sort of thing goes on.

MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake · 07/03/2023 22:26

I think they're saying the friend wrote the earlier post as herself and wrote this one posing as the partner.

Thekirit · 08/03/2023 02:32

MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake · 07/03/2023 22:26

I think they're saying the friend wrote the earlier post as herself and wrote this one posing as the partner.

Thankyou

cillygelly · 08/03/2023 09:55

I think this is driving op mad and she wanted a different perspective but I can tell you that if you are thinking this much of him, even if he has feelings for you they can't be as strong as yours to him otherwise he'd be with you already. I think you'd be better off cutting him out of your life so that you can move on.
You can reach many different conclusions about why he did or didn't do this or that but the loudest action of all is that he isn't with you, he still chooses her. I'm sorry and I hope you are able to move on from him and this toxic dynamic. Men are surprisingly simple and direct when they actually want something.

harriethoyle · 08/03/2023 10:32

OP hasn't returned since the mirror thread has been linked. Fancy that... 🙄

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