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Any tips for having a partner who’s an entrepreneur

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Moonchild009 · 04/03/2023 03:20

My bf is a business owner and a lot of time we we may not see eachother for weeks (we live 40 mins apart), he may have financial issues, he isn’t as emotionally available, we won’t have sex, he is very stressed etc. I want to support him but it feels like my needs are being compromised. This is my first time being with an entrepreneur and it’s difficult to tell if my feelings are valid or im overreacting. Does anyone have any advice on how to stay afloat and being reasonable in this type of situation?

OP posts:
category12 · 04/03/2023 15:55

Sounds like long distance relationships suit him overall.

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Moonchild009 · 04/03/2023 15:56

Unfortunately agree

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BitOutOfPractice · 04/03/2023 16:06

That not trusting anyone to do as good a job as you can yourself is the classic block to a business growing. Tell him to stick that in his entrepreneurial pipe and smoke it.

AviMav · 04/03/2023 16:51

Moonchild009 · 04/03/2023 15:52

It’s difficult to find someone you trust and will do the job well especially as well as you when it’s yours. He had an assistant and caught them laying down on the sofa via cctv when he claims he was doing all this work and demanding to be paid. This is someone he’s worked with for years but even still seems like the best bet because of that. @AviMav we spend a lot of time on the phone but I guess you could be right

Is this what he told you OP? Honestly some of these harsh comments about him are because people are thinking of YOU. A relationship consists of YOU also OP. If it's not working for you, you are under no obligation to stay. You haven't mentioned if you have kids or if you want these things.

Definitely is so hard to meet someone absolutely agree but I wouldn't be sacrificing my peace of mind for this though. It sounds like excuses. He should be paying someone to paint the studios.

Do you spend Christmas together? Birthdays? Have you met each others family?

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Moonchild009 · 04/03/2023 17:02

Well yes when we chat, I ask him and this is generally his response but I have also met the assistant so can see where he’s coming from. His cleaner also stole from him so he had to be let go. I was present for that. He comes to be with his pain points and I challenge everything he says and it makes sense to me but it is also not sustainable.
Our most recent conversation was about the future was on Valentine’s Day we spoke about kids, getting married, living together one day and it was all positive which kind is surprised me because of all that’s been going on.
yes we spend holidays together, he still makes an effort on occasions to make me feel special.

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pastypirate · 04/03/2023 17:13

I dated someone like this when he was building a company or 3 at a time. I found the emotional roller coaster too much really. It paid off for him he's doing very well now though I know he is a workaholic. He wasn't for me but I'm proud of him.

Ooompaloopa · 04/03/2023 19:25

Moonchild009 · 04/03/2023 15:16

He will literally paint his studio over night and spend all day sleeping. Repeatedly. He owns three studios across the city and has to open up and close for each of them. He spends time in between hiring equipment for photoshoots, editing, dealing with clients, admin faff etc. For the most part he is tired.

He will literally paint his studio over night and spend all day sleeping. Repeatedly.

No wonder he has financial problems.

Do you suspect any substance abuse?

Itsallok · 05/03/2023 02:18

BitOutOfPractice · 04/03/2023 16:06

That not trusting anyone to do as good a job as you can yourself is the classic block to a business growing. Tell him to stick that in his entrepreneurial pipe and smoke it.

Could not have said it better. Stop talking yourself out of your own needs OP.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 05/03/2023 07:55

I actively avoid dating anyone who calls themselves an ‘entrepreneur’, that’s my best advice. Don’t do it

its generally a swipe for me also
its such a wanky way to describe yourself

and he’s not bringing much to the party is he ?

HoollyWugger · 05/03/2023 08:17

laroisenoire123 · 04/03/2023 05:42

The problem with being with someone who calls themselves an "entrepreneur" is that you buy into the dream that they are going to create something amazing, that they are going to strike oil and strike it rich. You buy into the narrative that what you do is mundane, that you must do everything to support them to be an "entrepreneur."

Are you actually describing my marriage?!!

OP, get out now. Honestly, don't look back.

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