Im trying to work out where to go with this and what to do.
So, myself and my BF are not young, (50's). We have only been together for 5 months so a very short time in the scheme of things. I was in a long term relationship before him and only had a short time alone, he was alone mostly for 20 years, with the odd short term relationship, so that's a bit of background on that.
My bf has a lot of friends, mostly in smaller friend groups and he tries to stay in contact with them all which is one of the things i love about him. There is one lady who is in several of the groups and this is the one im talking about, lets call her Emma. They talk in the group chats daily. They talk by whatsapp Daily. They call each other at least 5 times a week, but on his side i would say ive never personally seen him call her, it's always been her calling him. They have been friends for a very long time, and if it was just this then i would give my head a wobble and sort myself out as i would never dream of isolating a wonderful partner from his friends be they male or female.
This is where it gets dicey. So these groups meet up on Weekends to do sports, staying over in hotels where they decide to meet. They go away for several nights around 2 or 3 times a year.
So the subject of holidays came up between me and BF and i asked him to go away with me for a week in the summer.
He told me he can't as hes going with Emma. So i naturally said what do you mean and he told me that they are going away as a group for 6 nights, then when they come home he and Emma are going away for 7 nights.
So i was genuinely upset to tbe stomach, but decided to be a big girl about it, and ask him about it and get over myself, as this was all booked before we met.
At this point i find out that the week away with Emma while being arranged between them was not booked at all. So i asked him if he could cancel that as he has a girlfriend now so im sure his friend would understand. He said he couldn't do that.
So then he felt guilty as i had pointed out to him that we wont be able to spend any time together until January next year as he has booked all his holidays with Emma, so he rearranged 2 days and got us a long weekend, so we went away for a uk break.
On the 3rd night, we were sat in the restaurant and he was on his phone, I didn't think much as it was prearranged personal chill time, but i casually asked what he was doing, and he said chatting to Emma, sorting campsite for their weekend away.
At this point i went to the hotel room, i was devastated and told him so, he absolutely steadfastly tells me she's not his girlfriend.
More discussions about this have been flogged to eah over the last few weeks.
Then he spent the weekend at mine, and i went to his and i should have been there until this mourning (wed) but i came gome last night. The reason I came home was i found out yesterday morning that they have booked the holiday. And i said to him, you didn't tell me that, and his reply was yeah i know i didnt, so i asked if he was going to and he said no.
There are a few more factors, but in a nutshell my bf is in an emotional relationship with another woman and shes been around a lot longer than me.