My boyfriend slept with his childs mother

[sillybillyaward]

I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months, and I fell for him hard. Things have been really good, he's told me I am the love of his life. We have spoken about us moving in. Basically things have been amazing.

He has a child with another woman, I was a bit iffy about this as I think it can cause drama. And it has. Recently she came to our town to do something as she lives a couple of hours away. He didnt tell me until the evening of that she and the child would be staying at his house to save money. I instantly thought it was dodgy, for not saying until I couldn't say anything as she would be on the streets.

I told him i was unhappy with this, he basically turned it around saying he's not kicking his child out on the streets so I felt bad. I didnt sleep the whole night and after 3 days of him acting so weird. He admitted they slept together that night, they weren't drunk, he doesnt know why it happened. I'm heartbroken, he keeps telling me it means nothing, he doesnt want to be with her. If he wanted to he would. he loves me and wants a future with me. I just dont know what to do. She will always be around and i'm scared this will happen again

This here, 100%

he doesnt know why it happened

Hahahahaha!

You're dumping him right? You can't trust him.

You can never ever trust this man! Honestly leave this situation

Going thru the same thing .. we in the process of getting married and we have a house together but going thru the same shit he honestly apologized and said it was his fault thinking she would change

@DiorrNikkole3232

Going thru the same thing .. we in the process of getting married and we have a house together but going thru the same shit he honestly apologized and said it was his fault thinking she would change

Thinking she would change?

He shagged her, this isn't any more her fault than it is his!

Dump block delete.

He is a cheater and no one needs this level of drama in general.

Nope. Bin.
He’s a liar and a cheat with too much baggage and not enough sense. You could never trust him and he will destroy you with the drama he brings into his own life.

They always say that

I literally tried but he becomes aggressive and abusive

Make him your ex - seriously. Have someone with you if it will help. Good luck, you don’t need a bullying, cheating, arse like him in your life. You are worth more x

@DiorrNikkole3232 its probably best if you start your own new thread to get support. A lot of people will look at this and realise it's an old thread and not bother reading, or they'll reply to the OP without seeing your post.

Have you name changed OP? You're not still with him are you?

If so then call the police, get a non mol order on him.

Fuck him off out of your life and go for an STI test.

This will never change. (him and her).

If you accept this, then he knows he can get away with it again, might be with his ex, might be with some other woman. you'll never be able to trust him again.

And it is insulting to the other woman, who in this case is the mother of his DC. Geez.

How do I do that I’m new here

‘It meant nothing’ and yet was worth risking his relationship for. Did she know it meant nothing? Or did he not care?

It meant nothing to him, he wasn’t bothered either way but did it anyway. Did she know he wasn’t that fussed about sleeping with her but did, behind his girlfriends back?

He knew when she was staying they were going to have sex. That’s why he snapped. He knew, she stayed anyway. They had sex. Likely that they do whenever they see eachother.

And then if top ‘he sees the child when he can’ and ‘she will stop me seeing our child if she knows I am seeing someone’ are huge red flags.

He is a very waste of space. Get rid

Men with kids are generally not catches unless you’ve got kids yourself and want to blend. Even then it’s a hard road. This one def needs throwing back

She doesn't even know you're together? Why on earth not? Apart from the obvious?

Anyway, i'd fix that for him. Send her a message!! (Not blaming her, just reinforcing what a twat he is. Tell her what he said to you, give her the shove to move on from the idiot.

i know it's heart breaking, but end it now, none of the 'good stuff' outweighs what he's done (and possibly not for the first time) nothing he SAYS, outweighs what he DID.

i know it hurts like fuck now, but better now than in a few years!

you'll be fine & thank yourself later on. Promise!!

ZOMBIE THREAD ZOMBIE THREAD

@DiorrNikkole3232

im very sorry you're going through this too, but you need to start your own thread, not revive someone else pain.

@sillybillyaward im sorry I didn't realise it was a zombie thread earlier. Do you want to tell us what you ended up doing? Hope this hadn't upset you too much.

They could still be together and you may be the other woman but could also be that they have 'broken up' but have an on/off casual sex thing going on, probably because it is simply easy sex. I knew a couple like this and the woman was a single mum and it was hard but when the dad stayed over she said they would have sex occasionally as she wanted it and couldn't be bothered do date other men especially with a young child around and having sex with her ex ie. the dad, just felt right at times. Couples who have properly split, kids or no kids, do not just suddenly have sex as a one off. It's probably been happening a lot. Maybe he did feel like a 'single' man and met you and he felt excited and in love as he's just come out of a committed relationship with a child and you made him feel all young and free again. He obviously wants the best of both worlds or still feels a strong connection with her whether they are a couple or not. If they cannot control themselves when they're together it will happen again. Move away from this as soon as you can. If it's the case she is saying he cannot see his child, that is sad but for your own sanity, it's too much to deal with.

It will. You can do better than him.