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Friend wanting things to go wrong in my relationship?

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Marinegreen87 · 17/02/2023 00:14

One of my closest friends is in an up and down relationship. They make up and break up but ultimately love each other so stay together. She wants commitment and babies (late 20s / early 30s) and he is less convinced but obviously loves her.

She keeps talking about thinking he will propose and sometimes it’s hard to stomach because we know he doesn’t always treat her that well - when it’s great it’s great but she tells us all the less good bits too.

Im in a new relationship of 6 months and while I love her (and things are good, we haven’t argued yet) she keeps asking how things are seems desperate for us to argue to normalise her relationship.

I love her but I’m feeling pressure to say something negative, kind of feel like she wouldn’t be unhappy if things did go wrong for us? I can be anxious at the best of times and it’s really stressing me out - plus hearing her talk about how perfect things are in her relationship when I know two weeks ago they weren’t!!

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Marinegreen87 · 17/02/2023 00:15

She goes on a lot about how much her dp spoils her and mine does too but I don’t like to talk about it as it seems boastful? I don’t know what to say! Tell her how lucky she is? Talk about how mine also does? I just end up nodding and smiling but it seems so false when I know how he treats her in reality

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AgentJohnson · 17/02/2023 04:37

Your friend is toxic, I don’t give a flying fig why she’s that way but if you remain friends with her behaviour will have a negative impact on your mh.

Marinegreen87 · 17/02/2023 07:55

She’s lovely just insecure I think! But makes me feel sad

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