Did you fancy your partner the first time you met them?

[wonderingwanderings]

When I first met my exP, I didn't fancy him at all. We met at an event and started meeting up in a friendship group. As I got to know him I suddenly realised one night that I did actually fancy him! I was really surprised that after 3 months of being friends, this physical attraction had suddenly kicked in. We were together for 3 years.

I'm intrigued about this because I was recently introduced to someone and though I wouldn't say there was any physical attraction, 'on paper', everything works in terms of interests, humour...everything.

So, just curious to know if you fancied your partner right at the start or did it grow?

Yes, actually before we even met. We locked eyes a few times on the school bus but didn't really get to know each other until 4 years later.

Yes. Immediately. I clocked eyes on him and my heart said "i want that one."

I've never grown to fancy someone over time. I either fancy them at first glance or not at all.

No I didn't, it grew.
Thinking back over my previous relationships, I think that was the case for all of them.
I have had those thunderbolt moments in the past though, where I've looked at someone and thought 'Wow, he's gorgeous!' But unfortunately those types have always been out of my league due to me not being attractive in the slightest - and that's not me pulling myself down, it's just how it is.

Yes. He was very flippant messaging when we first matched. Dissapeared came back 2-3 weeks later with his cocky chatter. Asked for a date, and he was waiting outside the restaurant. Instant overwhelming feeling.
He asked for a kiss mid-date, then another long kiss outside. I remember getting in the car feeling omg. The day after at work I told everyone I was in love.

Yes it was instant and I knew we would get together straight away despite not knowing anything about him.

Yes. Instant attraction. Then quickly realised all the other amazing things about him, sense of humour, kindness etc. which just increased the attraction. 17 years later I still fancy the pants off him and wouldn't change a thing about him or our relationship.