Did you fancy your partner the first time you met them?

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When I first met my exP, I didn't fancy him at all. We met at an event and started meeting up in a friendship group. As I got to know him I suddenly realised one night that I did actually fancy him! I was really surprised that after 3 months of being friends, this physical attraction had suddenly kicked in. We were together for 3 years.

I'm intrigued about this because I was recently introduced to someone and though I wouldn't say there was any physical attraction, 'on paper', everything works in terms of interests, humour...everything.

So, just curious to know if you fancied your partner right at the start or did it grow?

It was lust and love at first sight, and I had never experienced either before.

It turned into a 13 hour date and the three days rule I had always stuck to was out of the window day one.

Yes, madly. 25 years on I still do, although whether my body wishes to comply is more of an issue.

Feelings towards someone are very much influenced by other factors in your life, subtly and subconsciously, I'd bet most of the posters on here were commitments free (as in no children) young etc.

No he grew on me and he pursued me, I gave in, in the end it was meant to be and we are together years later.

Yes, not a thunderbolt but something under the radar.

I was with a friend and among a fairly big group. Had only ever exchanged a few words with him. She said 'Oh, look at X, he's so...unprepossessing!" Found myself saying "Oh come on, he has a lovely smile though."

No I thought he was a twat actually

Yes massively. We met in a supermarket wine aisle. I clocked him and it was like a thunderbolt. Luckily he felt the same (or he thought I looked alright and worth some chat at least). We just got married. And I fancy him just as much now If not more.

Absolutely. It was 40 years ago, but in my mind's eye, I still have every detail of that first meeting. I was attracted right from the start.

I thought my husband was incredibly gorgeous, I couldn't believe he was on a date with me tbh. Still think he is 😍

Yes! I was delivering training that he was on. And we didn't get together til a few years later, but his friends he was with that day have told me he spent the whole training session going on about fancying me (have told him I'd have preferred he just listened and admired my subject knowledge 🤣)

Yes attracted from the beginning. It grew and grew into love. 20 years so far and the attraction has never gone away though we have had to work on not letting life get in the way of 'us' at times.

No, I fancied his friend.
Truth be told, he fancied mine.
By the time we got from the pub to the after-hours party, it was clear neither of them fancied either of us.
So we proceeded to try to drink each other under the table. When I sobered up I realised we were 9 years in, married house owners with a TTC decision to be made.

No, when I first met DH I had a boyfriend and he had a girlfriend, so I guess I just wasn't thinking that way. We've been married for nearly 20 years now and I'm still crazy about him.

I had the fireworks with my ex boyfriend, fancied him madly from the first time I set eyes on him, we were a nightmare together!

For me it is the whole package, somebody can be great looking but i need more than that; a spark for me wouldn't be there on looks alone, im not attracted otherwise. When I met dh he had charisma and it was like we just clicked right away, no awkward silences. He was the full package, i knew I was in love when it hurt to be away from him. There was a spark, and he was my favourite person to spend time with (and still is).

Yes! Our first date was dinner and I barely heard anything he said I was just drinking him in. Still crazy about him :)

Yes, right from when I met him in a coffee bar with my then boyfriend when I was in my teens.
Took a while for us to get together, and then we parted and got together again permanently, several years and a marriage later.

I couldn't really see him as he used to hide behind long hair! I preferred more clean cut though. 🤣 He was always kind and funny. He kept asking me out and I joked that he should cut his hair so I could see what he looked like. I really didn't think he would cut his hair and wasn't serious.
He turned up at my house with obligatory 90s curtains and said "will you go out with me now?"
25 years later he still looks better with shorter hair!

Yes! Though we were 15 at the time, he had just moved from another country and was the new kid. Easily a foot and a half taller than all the other boys at school, super deep voice and long black hair with piercings. Thought all my dreams had come true, never imagined he’d fancy me back but thankfully he did!

I was 7 and he was 3 when we met so no. 😂

Yes. Loved their smile.

No I didn't and still don't really if I'm brutally honest. She is such a lovely person though and that is all that matters. Looks fade after all...

The moment I saw him I think I must have stared too long. I thought he was gorgeous and I still look at him and think the same. He's got better with age as well. I remember thinking I'd let him do anything he wanted to me 😂
The physical attraction was intense and I fancied the pants off him. We didn't get along too well at first and our personalities still sometimes clash. We are better at dealing with that now. I've never looked at anyone else.

No, never occurred to me to think of him that way but was in a relationship when we met too so not really looking at people that way.

No way - he was a slow burn. But he's always insisted he fancied me as soon as he saw me and thought to himself "she's the one". Makes me proper warm and fuzzy hearing that 🥰

Yes instant, still fancy the pants off him over 20 years later