How often do you have sex, and how has the frequency varied over the course of your relationship?

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Also, do you ever feel anxious about expectations if you have a lower libido?

From a curious individual. 🧐

You first?

Fairly new relationship, we see each other about three times a week and probably have sex on at least two occasions.

4-5 times a week. Married 10 years.

It's fluctuated. Illness, stress, exhaustion etc have lowered the frequency. Good times have increased it. Communication and understanding has always been vital.

I felt anxious early on about expectations, but we worked through that and now very comfortable and happy. It helps that our libidos are fairly evenly matched, mine fluctuating more than his but never too extremely.

In the beginning, all the time we were together. For example, we went away within 2 months of meeting for 4 days. We had sex day and night only stopping for food and drink. This pattern carried on for a good 18 months.
Now it's dropped to 2-3 x a month 4 yrs on.
In fact, he rolled over and went to sleep last night when I propositioned him.

Once in the last 5 years. My partner doesn't like the way they look and so doesn't want to do it.

ZekeZeke · 08/02/2023 12:31
You first?

So predictable............

Married 5 years, both in our 50s, met about 10 years ago. To start with the honey mood period was great, but now it's maybe twice every 2 weeks (we have a teenager in the house so don't do it when she's there). I'm menopausal and he has slight ed. we try but it mostly ends with him not maintaining an erection and I can't be arsed - thankfully we both see the funny side and laugh about age being a bitch

Every other day just now (TTC)
When not trying for a baby, twice a week on average, more when not working on holiday etc.

All of this is totally normal in monogamy btw

Every day sometimes two or three times. We have been married a year but we both have high sex drives. We both initiate it.

4-5 times a week-married a few months, together 3 years

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At first it was every day sometimes twice.
Now it's once or twice a week.
Married 43 years.

met 10years ago, married for 18months, have 2 children 8 and 5. At the start probably 3-5 times a week, now sporadically, maybe 3-4 times a month. We are ttc so a bit more at the moment

Been together 13 years, married with one young child and another on the way.

First year, whenever we saw each other
Then on average once or twice a week until I got pregnant first time and slowed a bit until baby was sleeping better. Been once a week until pregnant again and has slowed a little but expect to be back on our usual once a week or more when they are settled

Married 15 years, hardly any at all from the start, and nothing for 12 years..........

wtf 😐

Been together 3 years. I have 2 tween/teen DC. We used to see each other 3 days a week when my DC were with their Dad and would have sex 2 or 3 times a day as he was furloughed and I was WFH!

Since he's moved in and is back at work again, it's generally 4 times in the week and twice on a Saturday (I love morning sex on a Saturday with no kids about).

We’ve been together almost eight years. We have sex every day - but we prioritise it in, I suppose, the way other people seem to prioritise cooking from scratch or watching TV in the evening. We don’t do either of those things!

If the sex dropped off it would be concerning because it would mean something was wrong, either medically with one of us, or with our relationship. I hope we’d try to address either one of those pretty pronto.

Together four years, late 50s, almost every night and 2 or 3 mornings a week too. I worry sometimes that we’re sex mad but it just seems to work for us, so - long may it continue! last 20 years of my 30 year marriage were sex-free. I guess I’m making up for lost time.

Both almost 50, together 9 months, both with high sex drives so 2 times a day mostly 😂

Been together 7 years, used to be multiple times a week for the first couple of years, now we can go months in between sometimes, we had sex three times last month, but nothing this month as of yet, there’s no set pattern really. We’re both women so we have to navigate two sets of periods (mine last 10 days due to endometriosis) and we work long hours so a lot of time we are just too tired, we are both happy though and are very intimate in other ways (lots of cuddles and kissing).

Both under 25 been together 5 years.
I do 12 hour shifts so probably only once/twice a week on average. If we go on holiday usually twice a day.
At the start we didn’t live together so probably twice a week as well

Together 4 years, anything from 1-5 times a week, but we do have two under 3 and a 10 year old in the house. Very much haven't realy fell out of the honey moon period yet I don't think, hopefully it continues.

Whenever I want to. Sometimes 4 times a day, sometimes nothing for a month if there's something on the tv. Because I'm single, and have 'accrued' through online dating a handful of men I can choose at a moments notice.

Both late 40s, together 8 years, the first year every day, now twice a week, four or five when on holibobs.