I need to vent/ask for advice/make sure I'm not over reacting.
I've been with my partner for 3 years, he moved in with my daughter (6) and I in September. When we started talking I knew he smoked weed. I wasn't crazy about the idea but it wasn't often and I don't actually think weed is necessarily bad. HOWEVER when we were discussing him moving in, I made it explicitly clear that he can under no circumstances keep weed in the house or in his car outside of his house because of my daughter and my job (I won't post my job title as I don't want to be identified but it's a serious job). He lived with his parents prior to moving in so I said he'd have to keep it there. He was fine with this.
I came home from work tonight to him high as a kite. I've asked him if he'd been to his parents to smoke it.... no, he says he's had it in his car for a couple of weeks. HE TOOK MY DAUGHTER TO SCHOOL LAST WEEK. I am absolutely livid. I've told him that he's overstepped a boundary in a massive way and needs to GTFO out my house basically.
He's currently sulking and saying I'm over reacting/it shouldn't even be illegal/I need to calm down. I feel like he's taken a huge risk by being in possession of weed in a house I own with my six year old daughter. Is he serious?!?!
We've had reoccurring arguments over the last few months as he's exposed himself as a bit of a QAnon buff, so our views do not align. He's quite intolerant and comes off as a bit of a narcissist - obviously I can't diagnose but he shows traits like never thinking he's wrong and thinking he's above the law.
I am FUMING and getting more angry by the second at the thought of him lying about this for 2 weeks and taking my daughter to school.
Am I over reacting by telling him he needs to move out? Any advice would be appreciated xx