Both early forties.Married for 7 years, together for 10.
The only day my DH has to attend his workplace is a Friday. Over the last 6 months, I've noticed a pattern to his behaviour. In short, he's always VERY "attentive" from Friday night through Sunday but then just tails off. He'll only be like this if he's gone into work on the Friday.
Without that, it'll just stay steady- maybe once a week.
I definitely like the attention but, now I've noticed, I just have this niggling feeling that I'm reaping the benefit of an appetite he's building up elsewhere.
There's nothing else particularly unusual about what he does. I wouldn't even say he makes much of an effort to dress any smarter just because he's visiting an office. He trims his beard and hair once a week on Sunday, so he's actually almost at his scruffiest on Fridays.
He's always been the same after he's been away too. Either with work or friends. Then though, he'll blame it on the effect alcohol has on him. He's obviously not getting drunk on Fridays though.
He's a pretty good husband at face value. Great with the kids, shares housework and houseadmin, puts us first etc etc.
Am I overthinking it? (I'm thinking the fact he's not over-concerned with how he's looking might mean he's paying for something rather than having an affair.)