Have you ever had someone say something so hurtful or inappropriate it felt like a punch to the stomach? (Struggling with dads comment)

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I had a termination when I was in my twenties and didn’t cope at all for around six months. One day I was in tears on the phone to my mum and my dad grabbed the phone and said angrily ‘stop this nonsense and go and read some books to broaden your mind.’ It felt like I was being punched and years later I feel sick still when I remember how hurt I was. Feeling crap today so obviously revisiting anything painful(!)

@PinksNPurples I'm glad that your child/children have your back. All the best 🌼

Yes , my parents minimised the sexual abuse I suffered asa child aged 13 when it happened and then again recently , my father telling me it was up to them who they socialised with.
That was 3 months ago. After weeks of them doubling down on their statements and saying they were hurt and insulted , that I was abusing them I am now NC . It’s hard at the moment .
Reading stuff online they both fit the stereotype of well meaning but emotionally neglected themselves parent with so many examples I can recall growing up.
I don’t miss my parents, I miss the parents I never had.

My mother has repeatedly crushed me with nasty comments and behaviour throughout my life and made me the shadow of the person I should be. . I dont talk to her about anything meaningful anymore. Basically the weather and gardening. She doesn't know a single thing about my life now.

At 18 years old, my uncle saying "christ haven't you got over it yet" referring to my entire childhood of abuse that only ended when I was 15.

I guess I was meant to get past 11 years of physical, sexual and mental abuse with no help in just 3 years.
I thought I was weird to not get over such things so quickly. It took another 15 years until I got someone I could talk to, it still affects me now (cptsd) and I'm 53 ffs.

Am no contact with him and a whole boatload of other people. I cannot deal with them ever again. If I saw him in the street I'd not waste my spit if he was on fire. Fucking knobhead