Ex husband flaunting new partner

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Just a bit of back story, found out my now ex husband was cheating on me with a woman from work about 6 months ago, we were happily married for 9 years with two children. I found out that he was cheating on me when I searched his phone one night and found various chats and pictures with this other woman. It wasn’t an easy breakup, not for me anyway.

Now I’ll try and get straight to the point, not long after him moving out of the family home he’s been very active on social media, can I just say that when were together he hardly ever used social media and definitely didn’t post pictures on there. He’s been on multiple different holidays with the new woman and has been buying her luxury gifts. I know right now I sound very bitter and jealous but he’s acting like he doesn’t have children!

He does see our one child ‘rarely’ but our other DD is still very young and confused with the whole situation.

I don’t think I’m coping with the breakup well at all and to see him being so happy really does upset me, not once did he ever post me on social media. This new woman is a lot younger than both of us, she is 26 and he is 39 nearly 40 and she is very beautiful which makes things that little bit harder. I know my children are the most important thing right now but has anybody been in the same boat as me? I do try and keep of social media but sometimes curiosity gets the better of me! Sorry for any punctuation or spelling mistakes, I just wanted to get this out here

@Rookiemama1 enjoy the sex whilst it lasts , you will be picking up his viagra pills soon 😂

Well said 🙌🏻

One step at a time OP. One day at a time.
The single most important thing you can do right now to preserve your emotional well-being is to STOP looking at or following his life online, or in any other way. You have to find a way to block him, other than absolutely necessary communication regarding CMS. Nothing is EVER as good as it looks on social media. But either way, he's a doof, this will come back on him and karma will get him. But you need to pick yourself back up - you are on different paths now. Blocking him is the first step. You will feel better when you can't see what he is doing or comparing it. Big hugs ❤️

the sex is off the scale
That's great! Make sure you keep that up as he's already ditched one woman and you won't be young forever.

@Rookiemama1 But you won't be young forever.

The woman gets tired and drudgey with the baby the man realises to his horror he has come full circle. The relationship doesn’t stay super sexy honeymoon style for long especially after a baby most adults with a brain realise this 🙄.

Dh cycle club is full of 50 something men who’ve ditched first wives for 30 somethings who now all have babies / toddlers again whilst first wife free as kids independent - boy do they moan!

God it's grim isn't it, wife has his babies and dedicates her life to family and he trades her in. Thankfully haven't seen it much in my life.

I agrée with most other posters op - definitely block him. And social media only shows the great stuff - not the boring stuff - even with people you actually like!

My friends ex ran off with someone else ( family life was too boring apparently). They had a baby together and he honestly looks so fucking miserable! His kids from his first marriage know he's a lazy shit and pretty much treat him with contempt. And apparently the new wife throws things at him when she gets angry. Of course they don't show that on social media!

I know someone who is known to be the ow and is about 43 but married to a 76 year old man who is a millionaire who has been married a few times (similar story to yours in terms of being the ow, beautiful also). All the handbags, lavish holidays and jet setting life etc on social media and RL are one thing but to wake up everyday next to a wrinkly old man who has to use viagra pills and with adult kids from previous marriages is something that irks me each and every time I see them together.

In a few years time when she starts helping him in wiping his wrinkly old butt whilst looking after a teenager or holding his hand to attend yet another doctors appointment for hearing loss, testicular problems and hypertension whilst losing her looks as she will be closer to 50, the previous wife would be laughing more as she doesn't need to deal with that cheating package.

It's pretty grim op, believe me no decent person ever applauds this shit. They both deserve each other. No decent person would want to be with a married cheating man with kids but there you go, she now has him and good luck to her and good luck to him who has to waste his pathetic life to keep up with her! You can only wish they have a baby in a few years time where he will be trapped in childcare especially when he really experiences his mid life crisis in his 40s. The grass is never greener op. But you hold your head up high, you and your kids don't need these people in your lives. The best revenge is to live your best life with your kids giving no headspace to these two losers. You haven't lost op, you are the winner in this. It's the losers that have to prove, you don't need to prove shit. Take one day at a time. Wishing you and your kids all the best in life

this sad mid life infatuation will come to an end when she dumps him, and you need to get strong quick so you don’t take him back. He will try to come back as they always do, and you need to remember all this hurt and ridiculous behaviour when you shut the door on him.
i give him 6 months, and she will be outta there….

My friend's husband did something similar a few years ago. His new girlfriend, the one he'd cheated on her with while she was pregnant, was 10 years younger, though no beauty and they were posting photos all over social media and his family were doing the same. She wasn't friends with any of them, but well meaning people were sharing in disgust. He spent his redundancy money on her, and there were photos of them on holiday.

She's fine now (on the whole!) years later and of course he split up with that woman, and tried to reconcile with my friend when nobody else wanted him. I'm glad to say she didn't give in.

Just from (unpopular I know!) 'the other woman's' point of view (ps we didn't cheat he had finished with his ex before he even messaged me) don't let them see how much it's annoyed you.

If you weren't cheating that's not the same as the OP's situation @rookiemere and you're not being unreasonable.
It's the cheating that was probably more hurtful and all that goes with that. And you wouldn't want to be with someone of questionable morals who was capable of doing that, presumably.

Threads like this give me shivers of fear as I was that twentysomething. What had happened was the beginning of a very controlling relationship with someone who didn't really exist. A mirage of a person who needed me as the clean-up job for the mess he'd made of his past life. It was horrible from the start. But yes, lots of presents and days out. He'd told me a totally fictitious story about his divorce. Very traumatising all round.

He sounds like a total shit, OP. The scum of the earth. Those pictures are not what they seem, I promise you.