DH works overseas. I am at home with 10 & 8 Yr old sons alone. We see DH during school holidays, he is in the Middle East and started an new job last September.
We are due to visit in Feb half term, will only be there for 6days, so a short time for the kids to see their dad. His work takes over him and it is demanding, I asked if he could try to be present and put the kids/u first over work when we visit because we are there for such a short period of time.
it’s also my birthday during the visits and I wanted us all to spend the day together on my b’day. DH told me that’s other husbands don’t take time off work for their partners b’days. And that we should do something the next day, when it is a weekend so that he doesn’t have to take a days holiday. We will be flying out the next day he is suggesting.
I was told that I was being a princess wanting/expecting him to take the day off, he would have to find someone to cover the work that day and if is was such a “big deal” to me he would.
I already feel second best to his work and this has just re enforced that and made me feel more unloved, in respected, unappreciated and second best. However I’m now questioning myself because he’s told that I’m over reacting, I’m being argumentative and basically I’m being unnecessarily demanding.
we are only seeing each other for 6 days out of potentially 3 months. Am I wrong??? Help!?