Partner doesn't brush his teeth

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I met my partner a few years ago. We got on very well from the start. He helped me through so much. Unfortunately I have a terrible terrible issue. I think I might be falling out of love with him. He isn't brushing his teeth anymore. Not at night anyway. In the mornings sometimes he might take his toothbrush to the bathroom but it's a manual brush and I don't think he's spending a lot of time on oral hygiene. He's in and out in a matter of a minute or so.

I was sleeping with him last night and I got a whiff of his breath. It smelled like a bin filled with old period soaked products. It was awful. My sleep was disturbed and I had to get up and move to the couch. He wanted sex this morning and I had to pretend to be sick to get out from it. The same thing happened at Christmas time. I am pulling away from him.

This is awful.

Has anyone here have a partner that doesn't brush their teeth. I think it's done out of a mix of things. Laziness, tiredness and his gums bleed easily so in an effort to joy make them bleed he doesn't brush his teeth.

Nope. This would be a total deal breaker for me.

Have you told him to go and brush his teeth?!!

If my husband thought he could get away with that, he'd have another thing coming. It's just MINGING and antisocial.

He needs to see a dentist. I doubt there are many people around with partners who are so lax in their oral hygiene.

There was a recent thead here about "dh's rotting"

I'd be getting rid immediately. That is just disgusting.

Could never tolerate this!!!
I’d be marching him into the bathroom.
Have you said anything? I would have. Revolting! X

Just tell him "Sorry to have to tell you but your breath smells really awful - you need to brush your teeth more thoroughly".

Refuse to kiss or have sex if he continues being a minger.

Wasn't this exact same thread posted a couple of days ago?

Yuck! His gums probably bleed easily because he has gum disease caused by not brushing properly.

Have you told him how you feel?

Duplicate thread?

That’s gross. Tell him to brush his teeth. Tell him his breath stinks. Why are you protecting his feelings when he’s just being lazy? It’s not like it’s something he can’t help

There are a couple of threads re. not brushing teeth. Here's one.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4724429-dp-has-rotten-teeth

It's not just the brushing of teeth though, as when you brush, you also wash your mouth, tongue and roof at the same time.

Bad teeth can be detrimental to your overall health, with bacteria causing cardiovascular problems.

I never read the other one. Sorry I wasn't aware of the other post. That would be from some one else. I will read the other one now

Eek
He is in danger of losing his teeth, I bet his gums and red and swollen.
Any bleeding means brush more not less!
He needs to floss too- that’ll probably make his gums bleed even more but it’s absolutely necessary. I have a dentist friend and I’m told a lot of people don’t floss as they think it ‘cuts their gums’ it doesn’t, they just have inflamed gums.
See a dentist he might need root planing.

Disgusting. Ditch him

A friend left her husband because he thought getting married meant he didn't have to care about basic hygiene anymore. He stopped brushing his teeth and wore the same pants for days on end. She talked to him about it, asked if he was depressed, but the reality is he just didn't care and assumed she'd put up with it.

She's happily remarried and has a couple of kids with a very clean man now.

Tell him he needs to brush his teeth at least twice a day, first thing and last thing, and if he doesn't dump him

I worked with a guy, luckily only for a few days, who must have used dog shit to brush his teeth. I don't have words for how bad it was

I was down with migraine all day due to the disrupted sleep last night.

I'm broken about this. We've been together for years and this wasn't always it but it was there for some time. I shouldn't have to take a fully grown ass man and telm him what to do. It's also depressing in that I am not worth even 2 minutes of his time to care of his oral hygiene that is also for himself.

What is it with people's standards just lately? What's with all the rotten teeth threads just lately? Puke! 🤮

Why don't you straight out tell him that his breath stinks and that it's a major turnoff for you?

He needs a wakeup call.

Eww. You snog someone that doesn’t brush his teeth. Dump his skanky arse. You can’t be that desperate.

Does he have any mental health issues? Only asking as when I was about 15/16 I was severely depressed and for about 3 weeks I didn’t brush my teeth other then with water. It sounds disgusting but I was feeling so low I didn’t care about it or showering. My mum gave me tough love and told me the truth. I think you need to tell him he stinks and you won’t go near you. Sometimes hearing it makes it sink in.

Have you told him? I know it’s a bit awkward…
Its not hard to get an electric toothbrush and mouthwash.
Does he have a phobia?

Gums will bleed if not brushed.

Maybe I'm harsh but I would 100% tell my OH that him not brushing his teeth is a turn off for me.

Out of curiosity what kind of relationship do you have that you feel unable to address this straight away? My partner will tell me straight no messing about if my breath stinks or if I smell in general and haven't realised it. I am thankful. And defo no sex without brushing teeth first anyway...

@CharlotteRose90
I doubt he's suffering with depression as the OP's DP seems to have a healthy enough sex drive.