Girlfriend not paying rent this month ...

[whitebroadbanks]

Hiya so me and my GF (female also ) have been together 2 years.
She gives me £250 a month towards rent /gas/electricity (I have spoke about increasing it because of the prices going to but she laughs it off )
Anyway she went through a period of 2 months with no job so didn't contribute
It's been so tough I've had to pay for everything and I only work part time (due to lack of hours available)
She didn't have any money at Christmas but told me to get some gig tickets £100 and she would pay me when she got paid.
Anyway she's started a new job but this month only gets paid 2 weeks (as she's started mid month)
So she will get around £700
She's said she will start contributing again next month.
So this month I have to pay our holiday payment for both of us to jet 2
The rent /gas /electric /food
Am I being unfair asking her to pay something out of this £700
I really want to say look I need some money because I have nothing left
I literally have nothing left after bills /food etc
It's making me a bit sad
If she paid the £250 plus the holiday £100 I would be okay.

What is she planning on spending her £700 on if she isn’t contributing anything?
It’s very unfair of her to expect you to pay for everything when she is going to be getting some wages.

I don’t think you are being unfair to want her to pay something, she should want to contribute something. Is she going to pay you back for the holiday contributions or is she expecting a free holiday out of you?

I honestly don't think you can afford a holiday, OP. Not a Jet2 type one, at any rate.

Have you thought about listing your priorities in order?

You are totally not being UNFAIR.
She's got 700 while you pay all her bills.
She's got CF written all over her.

Agree, what is she spending £700 on?

I wouldn't be committing to a holiday with someone who's freeloading like that.

What else is she contributing to the household? Time/effort?

Is she cutting back on any of her personal spending?

There's a few issues. You don't make enough money to be going to expensive gigs and on holiday. All that needs to stop until you can save up for things and buy them out of actual money, not debt.

Second, she's a scrounger and you need to expect more. The WHOLE of that 709 should be household expenses and living expenses. What's she spending it on?

She is an absolute cheeky fucker
So she gets effectively £700 spends while you struggle to pay everything on a part time salary? How entitled can you get? Either she pays her way or she leaves surely?

Also this is very familiar. Have you posted about this before?

If she were a man she would be called a cocklodger.

Until we met I lived comfortable out of my part time wages but obviously these last few months I've been paying for 2 people

Have you posted about this before?
I swear I've read an identical thread

Minge stingier? Vulva vulture?

Either way, really unfair.

£250 seems like outrageously cheap rent, nevermind with bills inclusive
would she get a place for that elsewhere near you?
certainly the landlord wouldn’t be letting her skip multiple months rent either
she has an excellent deal.
even more so that you are footing the bill for holidays and gigs.

You booked a holiday while she was unemployed? Do you think she would reciprocate if you had no income? Where is £700 going and how much are your monthly outgoings on housing, utilities etc.

Rent £450
Gas electric £150
Broadband £25
Food (varies )

She saw you coming I'm afraid. Throw this one back, she's a piss taker.

She is taking the piss OP. She is living in your pocket. Literally.

Fanny Freeloader.

Ugh.
Get rid, OP ! 'Fanny Freeloader' 😂

100%.

If the relationship is otherwise good, I’d give her the benefit of the doubt and have an honest and straightforward conversation.

So sit down, say we need to talk about money and set out what all the bills are, make clear you’ve paid for her for two months but you’re now out of money and cannot subsidise her. Ask her what she plans to do with her earnings and how much she thinks would be fair for her to contribute.

And definitely don’t be booking any gigs or holidays!

Am I being unfair asking her to pay something out of this £700
I really want to say look I need some money because I have nothing left

Not only are you not being unfair, if she cared about you she wouldn’t want you to carry all the financial burden alone. I’d be telling her she needs to move out - you can’t afford to keep her and she doesn’t seem to care enough to be an equal partner in your relationship.

Ask her what she plans to do with her earnings and how much she thinks would be fair for her to contribute.

She clearly doesn’t think she should contribute anything. Present her with a bill for her half.

Absolutely, don’t ask, tell.

”You get £700 this month, I need £250 rent, £100 gig ticket, holiday contribution and £100 towards the missed rent. Next couple of months, give me £200 towards the missed rent then we will be back on track”

People never actually not realise they're taking the piss. They know full well and are the type of people who are happy to take advantage of others knowingly.

Have a think about that for a moment and think whether this is the person you really want to spend your time with. Hint. Probably not.

And you need to charge more if bills have gone up.

Tell her to find somwhere else to live. She sounds greedy selfish and a bit of a sponger.,