Girlfriend not paying rent this month ...

[whitebroadbanks]

Hiya so me and my GF (female also ) have been together 2 years.
She gives me £250 a month towards rent /gas/electricity (I have spoke about increasing it because of the prices going to but she laughs it off )
Anyway she went through a period of 2 months with no job so didn't contribute
It's been so tough I've had to pay for everything and I only work part time (due to lack of hours available)
She didn't have any money at Christmas but told me to get some gig tickets £100 and she would pay me when she got paid.
Anyway she's started a new job but this month only gets paid 2 weeks (as she's started mid month)
So she will get around £700
She's said she will start contributing again next month.
So this month I have to pay our holiday payment for both of us to jet 2
The rent /gas /electric /food
Am I being unfair asking her to pay something out of this £700
I really want to say look I need some money because I have nothing left
I literally have nothing left after bills /food etc
It's making me a bit sad
If she paid the £250 plus the holiday £100 I would be okay.

throw her back OP, shes a piss taker!

she is having an easy ride because you are letting her. Chuck her out !

Your expenses list comes to £ 615 without food, half of that is more than £250. So why are you only charging her that?
F**k the food, she can buy her own or not eat. You've let yourself be taken for a total ride.

Honestly get rid, you are being taken advantage of

I really want to say look I need some money because I have nothing left

If you can't say this to a partner without being worried about it, you shouldn't be in a relationship with them.

If you raise any concern with a partner, especially about something that is leaving you out of pocket unfairly, and they laugh in your face then you shouldn't be in a relationship with them.

She sounds selfish and unkind.

This isn't a relationship you should be pursuing.

I remember something very similar a couple of months ago!

You ask for a fairer contribution and she laughs at you?

You must know this isn’t normal or acceptable.

And I’ve read this before too. Get rid.

You spell it out to her . Simples.
This is the scenario if she doesn't pay

1. Month 1 she doesn't pay. You pay using up your reserves.
2. Month 2 . She doesn't pay. You cant pay rent. You have no reserves.
3. Your landlord demands immediate repayment
4. Your landlord starts recovery proceedings/eviction.
5. You are both evicted for non payment.
6. You have no home.

Stop booking gigs and holidays while you’re both so broke.

Talk to her. You tried already and she laughed, that’s a really big red flag as you can’t have a long term relationship with someone who refuses to have the difficult conversations.

Say look, we need to talk seriously about money. I’ve been paying for everything for both of us and I can’t continue to do that, I’m not rich, it’s making me broke. I’ve cancelled the holiday and gig, we can’t afford it. You owe me £XXX, I need you to start paying me back.

Yes she is taking advantage and she was when she contributed £250 a month too. But I think you both sounds financially irresponsible booking holidays and expensive gigs when one of you works part time and one is unemployed. The unemployment rate is very low at the moment and you both should be working full time if money is tight.

I really want to say look I need some money because I have nothing left

What stops you? What do you think would happen if you did say this?

So you end up with nothing in your pocket at the end of the month and she ends up with £700. Do you really need to ask if it's fair ?