Girlfriend not paying rent this month ...

[whitebroadbanks]

Hiya so me and my GF (female also ) have been together 2 years.
She gives me £250 a month towards rent /gas/electricity (I have spoke about increasing it because of the prices going to but she laughs it off )
Anyway she went through a period of 2 months with no job so didn't contribute
It's been so tough I've had to pay for everything and I only work part time (due to lack of hours available)
She didn't have any money at Christmas but told me to get some gig tickets £100 and she would pay me when she got paid.
Anyway she's started a new job but this month only gets paid 2 weeks (as she's started mid month)
So she will get around £700
She's said she will start contributing again next month.
So this month I have to pay our holiday payment for both of us to jet 2
The rent /gas /electric /food
Am I being unfair asking her to pay something out of this £700
I really want to say look I need some money because I have nothing left
I literally have nothing left after bills /food etc
It's making me a bit sad
If she paid the £250 plus the holiday £100 I would be okay.

Just say no give me some money. You've been together long enough.

She gives me £250 a month towards rent /gas/electricity (I have spoke about increasing it because of the prices going to but she laughs it off )

Never mind the holiday & gig costs - THIS shows you that you are her meal ticket. She thinks you are a pushover, & she is so entitled that she laughs at you when you ask for fair treatment.

FFS do NOT buy the gig tickets. If she wants to go, SHE can pay. If she can't cover that until her part-month wages come in, then she can't go, it's that simple.

How far into the Jet2 holiday payments are you?
Because I don't see how you can afford a holiday when you are living hand to mouth. If you have not paid much yet, it the remainder cancel-able?

You know your g/f is taking the piss out of you financially. What about other areas - does she do her equal share of household drudgery, does she take on the organisation & mental load, is she supportive?

She is taking advantage of you unfortunately. She probably senses your uncertainty and loose boundaries and is taking all she can get.

Don't let her take the piss anymore. She needs to contribute fairly or move out.

Errr... So you end up with nothing and she ends up with £700? No way

Yep. Almost word for word.

Are you always such a pushover ? She saw you coming.

Why are you allowing her to do this OP?

Tell her that she can live elsewhere until February if she doesn’t want to pay for her living expenses in January.

She’s taking you for a mug!

She needs to catch up with the back payments so you can get yourself back on an even keel. She owes you two months plus this coming month so ideally she should handing the whole lot over to you or at the very least paying £250 for this month plus an amount to pay her arrears so £50 maybe.
Don't let her get away with laughing off cost of living rises either. She either pys a reasonable amount or she finds her own place and you carry on your relationship with your own homes.

Why are you even thinking about booking a holiday.

Tell her you don’t have the money (which is true) and that you’ll book it next month when she starts getting paid properly.

Tell her that the bills have gone up to X amount and she needs to pay it when she gets paid or move out.

Stop being treated like such a mug.
She obviously doesn’t like you anymore for it.

She saw you coming!

She needs to contribute more otherwise you'll end up resenting her

Whatever the female equivalent of a cocklodger is, that's her!
Don't book a holiday until you've got your financial arrangements sorted.

Financial vampire, they suck the money, love and life out of you, and then more on to their next victim leaving you high and dry and suffering the consequences.

Why are you being such a pushover? She's freeloading and you're allowing it.

She should pay her way or Fuck Off.

She should be paying exactly 50% of all bills.

Vag Lodger.
Totally taking the piss.
She's getting 700 this month for half a month's work which means she will be getting 1400 from next month. There's no way she can't afford to pay the 250 plus the 100 for the gig tickets out of the 700 and then pay increased rent next month plus paying you back.
Tell her she needs to pay up. If she doesn't want to, then get rid. She's taking advantage of you.

The female equivalent of cocklodger is vag lodger - or one word, vaglodger

Get rid, she's taking advantage. All the bills should be spilt 50/50 and potentially more for the person who is earning more.

She's taking liberties don't ask her tell her you need £350 or she will have to find somewhere else to live.

I think she's a female version of a cock lodger get rid of her.

You lived comfortably without her live without her again. X

Get rid of the fannylodger. She's playing you for a fool and taking advantage of your kind nature.

Did you post about her before? It sounds very familiar and you were given very good advice then. I hope you are able to end the relationship and move forward.