Sticky situation please help

[chanelle1998]

Hi all. I could really do with some advice on this topic.

So I have been with my partner 8 years and I don't know why I did this, but I set up a profile on a dating app for myself🤷‍♀️ our relationship hasn't been 100% and I feel I was lacking ALOT from him. Anyway we're due to be getting married in march.

I matched with this guy on there, we exchanged number and have been one stop texting for 3 days now. I really like him and we have a lot in common, he's hot.
Obviously it's wrong to be speaking to another man like this while im in a relationship but I can't seem to stop speaking to him. He appears to be really nice and we're getting on well.

What do I do? It's such a messy situation I'm in right now. Please help.

Well gosh haven't you got yourself into a pickle.

If you can't see what to do there's fuck all point talking to you.

If you carry on with this guy you need to split with your partner.

Do you want to get married?

Well you don’t get married for starters. You are clearly not ready for marriage. With your partner at any rate. I would call off the wedding, end things with your partner and figure out what you want.

Leave your fiance. You're being horribly unfair to him. No happy person excited about marriage downloads a dating app and starts chatting to random 'hot' guys.

Cancel the wedding and leave your partner. Obviously.

Does the other man know your relationship situation?

If he does leave your fiancé and see what happens.

If he doesn’t leave your fiancé and stop talking to the other man.

Don’t get married if you’re unsure about your relationship.

Why are you even asking this on here?

You’re acting like you haven’t got a clue what happened as if it’s out of your control when you went on a dating site of your own free will.

🙈

Just delete your fiance's name from all the wedding stuff and insert the name of Hot New Man. Job done.

Cancel the wedding. Not because of the new man, that may well fizzle out. But your heart obviously is not in marrying your fiancé.

Just send your other post about drugging kids to get to sleep

Slow hand clap 👏

Yeah the other guy knows my relationship situation x

Call off the wedding for starters.

Reschedule it if necessary to give yourselves headspace.

Then give yourselves space and stop seeing your fiance and stop seeing/communicating with this other person.

You don't sound ready to commit to one person for the rest of your life.

Take the time to mature and make a mature decision about where you want your life to go.

Gosh what a pickle.

It's not a pickle. As soon as you start to be responsible for yourself and your behaviours like an adult, the path will look much clearer.

You're not a victim of circumstance here; you have chosen everything for yourself. What you're doing is like jumping into the sea and then saying, 'Oh gosh, I'm all wet, what a mess! How do I fix it??'

You're not a child, and you know what to do. You need to take responsibility and do it.

You clearly don't want to marry your partner and are not happy in the relationship, so the only honest thing to do is break up with him.

What do you do? You end your relationship with your current partner so that he can find someone nice to marry.

Then leave your fiancé and you are free to try and make it work with the other guy and your fiancé is free to try and find someone who loves him.

The fact you’ve cheated will likely come back to haunt you if you and the other man make a go of it though, so I would leave him as well but if you do try and make it work with him I’d advise taking it slowly.

Well, it’s time to cancel/postpone the wedding and spend a bit of time working out why you’re doing this, for a start.

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Well, OP. What do you think you should do?

If a friend came to you for advice, or your daughter or sister?

You'd tell them to grow up and end one relationship before starting another.

End the relationship with your partner, and get the pump and dump dating app man out of your system.

Well I think it's clear. Don't get married.

Why would you get married to someone where you don't feel it's 100%?

It's like sticking a plaster on a crack.