Sticky situation please help

[chanelle1998]

Hi all. I could really do with some advice on this topic.

So I have been with my partner 8 years and I don't know why I did this, but I set up a profile on a dating app for myself🤷‍♀️ our relationship hasn't been 100% and I feel I was lacking ALOT from him. Anyway we're due to be getting married in march.

I matched with this guy on there, we exchanged number and have been one stop texting for 3 days now. I really like him and we have a lot in common, he's hot.
Obviously it's wrong to be speaking to another man like this while im in a relationship but I can't seem to stop speaking to him. He appears to be really nice and we're getting on well.

What do I do? It's such a messy situation I'm in right now. Please help.

Your poor fiancé. Cancel the wedding. Tell him the truth and then go shag hot guy.

Cannot believe you're asking what to do about this or, that you're sat there making out like you're all confused when this situation is entirely of your own making.

At 25, you should most definitely know better too.

Please get your fiancé to get in touch, i've got some advice for him.

This is called cheating. You should stop that.

Downloading dating apps when you're involved with someone, is cheating. Get a hold of yourself and either leave your partner, or stop messing about.

Oh no, whatever should you do!

What do I do?

Call off the wedding.
Break up the relationship
Let him get on with finding someone who actually cares
You get your head straight

What do I do?

Well, Channelle, you could tell your fiance what you've been up to and see what he says.

Have the strength of character to be less passive, and admit to yourself that you have actively put yourself in this position.

Then split with your fiance and cancel the wedding. If you were happy, you wouldn't be on dating sites.

I would also swerve hot guy. Doesn't sound the most decent if he's happy to get involved in cheating online. I feel that this one may not turn out brilliantly either.

You're cheating on your partner (yes, this is cheating) with a man who knows you're getting married soon and isn't deterred.

Sounds like you both deserve each other to be honest, but it'll never last if you get with this new man, and it won't work if you stay with the one you're due to marry - I'd put money on it.

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And to think people like this actually get to vote. Fucking scary 🙄

I pity the man you are supposed to be marrying. Do him a favour and break off the relationship.

I originally had sympathy for both men jntil I read this. Since he knows your 'relationship situation' as you bizarrely phrase it, I think you and he are equally well suited and deserve the misery you will eventually give each other. He sounds a right catch, as good a catch as you!

Meanwhile I will reserve my sympathy for your poor fiancé who I hope finds out and has the sense to leave someone with no morals and find someone who deserves him.

3 days! 😂

Marriage is difficult enough even when you go into it thinking the other person is the nest thing EVER & you can't imagine life without them! Let alone when the relationship isn't going well!

irrespective of online bloke, you need to postpone or cancel the wedding.

Stop talking to MrOnline. He's happy to 'chat to you' (& fuck you no doubt) when he knows you're planning your wedding, he's not going to be faithful to you (if it gets that far)

be single, have fun, & don't make another lifelong commitment to anyone until you're truly ready to do it.

Well aren't you a catch!

You know what to do. You tell your fiance the truth and let him decide if he wants to leave you for someone who deserves his love or stay with someone who chats to random men on dating apps for attention!!

Of course this.

If you genuinely think you need advice on this then you are already a lot cause. Several PPs have already suggested cancelling the wedding because it is clear as day you shouldn't be getting married. That's a far bigger deal than being a scumbag cheater (which is what you are doing with the other man). It doesn't matter how advanced the wedding plans are, call it off. You're setting yourself and your fiancé up for unavoidable heartache and misery, and that's without even considering whether you might bring children into this mess before the chickens finally come home to roost.

Cancel the wedding plans and engagement.

Carry on two-timing both men until one or both find out and dumps you.

Don't come looking for sympathy.

I think it's self sabotage. You need to cancel the wedding , and if you are honest with yourself, your fiancé isn't the man for you . Deep down you know that
Good luck

"I don't know why I did this, but I set up a profile on a dating app for myself" and "Obviously it's wrong to be speaking to another man like this while im in a relationship but I can't seem to stop speaking to him."

What sort of person are you that you can disrepect your boyfriend, convince yourself that your behaviour is outside of your control, and consider starting a relationship with a person who knows you are supposed to be marrying someone else soon?

Be fair to your boyfriend. End it because you are not ready.
Be fair to yourself. Aim higher than this person.
And grow up.

The online guy is fake, he is probably enjoying stealing a guy's woman. Get a grip

How do you decide what to eat for breakfast? 🙄

How old are you OP? Is there a gap between you and your partner?

@pigwood I thought self sabotage aswell