Partner, father of my son stayed the weekend at his empty parents house. He does this occasionally.
He's broken me mentally, gaslit me and I'm a mess.
Incident at the weekend and an incident happened. I called him selfish.
He's been messaging me last 2 days saying if I don't apologise and admit to being na emotional abuser, then he won't come back and I'll have to pay all rent and bills on my own (he knows I can't afford it).
He kept messaging me yesterday leading upto the time he would return, saying "if you don't apologise I'm not coming back"
Then an hour later "so are you apologising or I won't come home"
He basically sent a load of WhatsApp messages that I have read because he always insults me. I'm told I'm a bitch, mental, need therapy etc. It upsets me, so I don't read them. Also, he has no idea to engage in trying to resolve conflict. I can literally express something such as, I feel sad that we don't do more together bad he will respond saying I'm insecure, mental and it's unattractive and he will leave me.
Yesterday I replied saying that I didn't want to read the messages as they will cause upset and that texting back and forth gets us nowhere. As we are two adults, who live together with a child, I was more than happy to have an in person discussion over any concerns. So if he came back, we could do this but if he didn't want to come back, thats his choice.
This morning he's sent me a load more messages this morning.
1st - so you're not going to apologise. I'm moving out
2nd- you're an emotional bully (with a load of other shit thrown in)
3rd - I'm moving out permanently if you don't change
4th- I'll move out and you'll have to pay for all the rent and bills
So if I don't apologise to a man (who has destroyed me) that I'm an emotional bully, he's not coming home.
Good riddance you may say.
Except I can't go to work without childcare. I can't afford to live in this house. There are no houses to move to and nobody I can stay with.