What do I do about my jealous boyfriend? We have been together around 6 months after I had a very traumatic break up with my ex. I was honest about this from the start and the long term impact this has had on me (I am in therapy and trying to heal). He has asked me a few intimate questions to which I have answered honestly. I get quite upset as I find it triggering to discuss which I explained. He seemed understanding then was moody and brooding for days. I confronted him and he said that my answers were bothering him. Eventually we reached a stale mate where he couldn't understand why I had refused to do these things with him (trauma). It took him a few days and he came around, said he finally understood my perspective and no pressure etc.
Then earlier he found a ring light amongst my things, totally innocent, and immediately accused me of making porn with my ex (totally untrue). He said he didn't mean it to be an accusation or to upset me. I said he is insecure and being ridiculous but he just goes quiet and doesn't know what to say.
I have noticed he is very needy recently, needs a lot of reassurance, regularly asks me why I hate him. It is all just getting a bit much and it's making me feel as though I am doing something wrong or making him feel insecure.
I remind him that he has been engaged previously and has a young child, neither of which I have, that he ought to put into context how hypocritical he is being but he is just so insecure. I feel I can't win. Its silly things like me wanting to read, he interprets as me not wanting to talk to him. Or I buy new heels and ‘you never wear heels with me’. Just grating on me now and I don't know if I'm misinterpreting because he's always so apologetic and down after I correct him.