New Fab & Glam (Part 3 - The Quest Continues!)

[Paddlechick666]

Here we go ladies!

I will tell you what to do, you DO NOT GO!! You do NOT let the GW use DS to lull you back in! You have already told him that you want to be alone. Now, he will use every trick in the book to prove to HIMSELF that you don't mean what you say.

You have done so well, you have been so strong in making your decision. DO NOT let the GW take that away from you! You can make your own Mothers Day breakfast. Just like you make your own breakfast every day!

Glad I'm not alone with the PMT

On Mothers Day I am going to make DD a special breakfast, (DS will be in his pit until lunchtime! for, if it wasn't for my children I wouldn't be a mummy anyway! So this year I am going to make it about them.

bit busy, lurking tho.

baffy, tell him to get stuffed. for whose benefit would this be ffs!

if you don't want to then don't.

hw, yeah i think your H has to toughen up and wise up. either choose to rise above and be beyond reproach and with enough rope she'll hang herself.

or, sink to her level. if clients ask/comment he should tell them he could no longer work with her for moral reasons adn imply that she is an evil woman who thinks nothing of wearing orangutang fur knickers embelleshed with rhino horn sequins stitched by 18 month old orphaned children in a sweat shop where they are paid 1 cabbage leaf per month.

I too have PMT!

Thanks TFM

I know. You're totally right.

I just want to be in my own home. With my husband and child. With breakfast, lots of cuddles and laughter - all in bed. Like it was before he took all that away from me.
That would mean the world to me.

But I can't have it can I!

So I need to shut up whining and make my own bloody breakfast and then pamper my mum, visit my step mum, visit my two nans, visit my great nan - and spend yet another special occasion making everyone else happy while I suffer in silence!!!

No rest for the wicked hey! Tough!!!

TFM, I like that idea for MD. I wonder if I could get my mum to adopt it.

it might be worth a try!

Three teabags with PMT! We have synchronized! Thats how close we are.

next year maybe.

this year I am cooking a sunday roast for her, step-dad, bro & his 2 x teens.

think i may have bitten off more than I can chew with this one

baffy, you and me both really. first MD H arrived (wasn't living at home) in the morning with flowers and organised a big family lunch with his family and mine. second MD he posted a card and a t-shirt.

doubt i will get anything this year

thanks pc too

It would be for h's benefit only. To ease his guilt.
And would make me feel
a) weak for backing down
b) sad in a sort of 'look what you could have had' kinda way
c) angry that he still gets to do the good stuff and play hero when it suits

so no, I won't go!
thank you!

same here pc

first mother's day h did all the night feeds, kept ds downstairs (and quiet) let me lie in, brought croissants, strawberries and champagne up mid morning which we ate in bed. the 3 of us then got back in bed and had cuddles for about an hour! then I got some gorgeous flowers and a home made card.

last year I (just about) got a card and some moisturiser I'd asked for.
brought round by h amidst apologies for why he was 'sorry', 'couldn't stay', 'still needed space' etc...

he was probably taking ow's mum for lunch or something!!!

this year I really don't want anything except a massive kiss and cuddle from ds. waking up to his smiling face - that's all I want!
then I'll let him wreck the kitchen making breakfast with me.

Girlies, look at it this way, it may help just a little, as you are not the Mother's of the GW's the little tokens that you get are not half as wonderful and meaningful as the ones you will get from your little ones when they are old enough to realise what MD is about. Don't be sad that the GW's may not make the effort for this shouldn't be about how they feel about you, it's all about our children

I know, I know, but I just wanted to put a different perspective on it for you

Keep smiling! xx

I know what you mean.

Tbh I hate mother's day anyway! I tell my mum every day that I love her. And ds tells me every day that he loves me (I made sure that was ingrained from day one! )

I hate all the pressure mother's day brings.

I have a very complicated family set up. Mum and 2 step-mums just for starters!
(i.e. my mum and dad split when I was tiny, step dad 1 brought me up, he and mum split when I was 20, I now have step dad 2, but step dad 1 has new wife, and new children, 3 under age 5!, so as he was pretty much my 'dad' as I grew up, I treat his new wife as a step mum!!!) but I'm now very close to my dad too. so his wife, step mum 1, is very important to me too!

hahaha did you keep up with all that!!

that's not to mention 2 nans, 3 step-nan's, one great-nan, and MIL!!!!!!

and for some reason they all always want to see me and ds...

now do you understand why I just want a day in bed with my husband and baby!!!

lol, you sound like such a great mum. i'm far to mean to let dd wreck the kitchen - all that clearing up!

this year I will be getting stressed about teh lunch whilst my brother gets in the way helps and poor dd will probably end up getting shouted at

i've never had a lie in with her, even the year he came over he didn't come till mid-morning

just bought a Mummy & Me cookbook to assuage my guilt!

am just thinking of all those christmas pressies you have to buy!!!

I agree with you Baffy. I don't need a special day to feel loved by my chlidren. I don't want them to have to spend their hard earned money on over priced flowers and cards either. They make me feel loved just by smiling at me and to see them all happy with their lives is reward enough for me. I know i've done a good job

baffy they all want to see you because you're lovely.

TFM, good point, well made.

Awh PC, when you feel like shouting at her sing baa baa black sheep instead. It works wonders in that kind of situation too, dd will just sit and stare at you like you are some kind of looney. It diffuses the situation though

I'm with you on the kitchen though, it's bad enough when Dp makes breakfast

ooh I love making a good mess! we made pancakes last week and there was flour and batter everywhere! even in our hair!! eww horrible!
ds's 'mixing' leaves a lot to be desired!

we laughed so much it was great.

then we do a big sink of 'bubbles' as ds calls it, and he stands on a stool and helps to wash the dishes! (i.e. splashes water everywhere while I wash!)

then we just jump in the bath and get cleaned up!

it's great fun

lol TFM don't even mention Christmas!! I have to start planning in January!
We do a lot of 'home made' things for the nans. Home made cards, bake biscuits, fruit cakes etc. Always find them so hard to buy for. And they seem to appreciate that kind of thing so much more.
Plus we have fun doing it!

(I save the expensive present buying for the teenage brothers and sisters!!)

What a lovely mummy you are

I don't mind us getting dirty, as along as it's outside!
But I do love bathtime together. DD washes my hair and massages my head, ahh bliss! She does like me to return the favour now though. She has also worked out that if she complains that her legs ache, (just before bedtime usually) she gets a nice leg massage too!

tfm

I'm teaching ds young! He now knows that if he wakes up before mummy in the morning, he's to cuddle me in bed and tickle my arm and that will slowly wake me up!!!
It's the best tickle ever!

Then when I'm awake, especially at the weekends, he gets a bottle and breakfast in bed followed by an hour of tickling and tv!

It's worth it for my 5 mins though!

OMG TFM we even share a dd - mine puts on the painful legs at bedtime too - as well as every other trick i have heard before and some i havent to stay up later!!!

PC - you already know the ow then do you .

TFM - i shall have a good evening - it starts with my 2 g&ts on the train.

I am getting really excited about meeting up with you all soon.

Sorry again baffy - again was going to say that you should tell h you are busy already on sunday - see what reaction he gives.

HW, I think I must but really my spelling was atrocious there wasn't it!

i just wish dd would sleep longe in the morning. she is waking between 5 and 6:30am and it is crippling me.

pulling 10 hour days at the mo isn't helping!

your evening sounds fab HW, i am . hope you have a great time tho.

ps: dd like a shampoo head massage

HW! Has she tried "can you hear that mummy? Thats my tummy saying it needs some breakfast before it goes to bed" meaning cereal, which is just another delaying tactice because it goes uneaten! Then there's the teeth, bedtime is the only time she insists "it's not two minutes yet mummy!"

Baffy wait til DS starts writing, I play a lovely little game with DD where i get her to write words on my back and i have to guess what they are. I really must be thick cos I keep getting them wrong and she has to keep trying again

PC, try this. Get her one of those little night lights with the timer on. Set the timer so that it comes ON when she is allowed to get up. Tell dd that until the light goes ON it is still night time so she has to go back to sleep. Make a reward chart and give her a sticker everytime she stays in bed. When she has so many stickers then she gets a surprise!