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What dating site did you meet your partner on?

102 replies

Ilovemycatalot · 10/01/2023 19:19

Genuinely curious as using them myself at the moment and struggling with the quality of men on them. Are paid sites better and if so what ones? Thanks in advance. I’m early 40s if that makes a difference. Hear loads of people w hi have met online but don’t say what sites they used.

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littleburn · 11/01/2023 10:35

Notformethankyoukindly · 11/01/2023 08:05

Fabswingers

Same 😂! But we ended up liking each other an awful lot 😁.

Pesimistic · 11/01/2023 14:48

Match 2019, 30 getting married this year

wafflesyrup · 11/01/2023 15:12

Hadtochangeforthisone · 10/01/2023 20:11

Illicit liaisons. 2005 Married 15 years.

Isn't that married dating? That must be an unusual end result ?

Hadtochangeforthisone · 12/01/2023 06:03

Wafflesyrup Yes. We weren't very good at it. He was my only date and I was his.

Both thought it was the solution to managing unhappy marriages without disrupting the children's lives.

In reality we weren't cut out for adultery but it did make us both realise that our marriages had to end.

So we ended them and married each other. Our ex partners also married other people. We are all - children included , much happier. Sometimes you just end up with the wrong person.

Alwaysworryingoversomething · 12/01/2023 06:27

Guardian Soulmates which no longer exists.
(In our 50s/60s & met 4 years ago).

PrincessConstance · 12/01/2023 12:36

Bumble.
Although he was on Tinder as well.
He'd been multi-dating, dumped by them all. We'd chatted but he disappeared. He came back 2 weeks later and asked me out.
We've been together ever since 4 yrs.

wafflesyrup · 12/01/2023 12:41

Glad it worked out for you @Hadtochangeforthisone

xfan · 12/01/2023 14:12

PrincessConstance · 12/01/2023 12:36

Bumble.
Although he was on Tinder as well.
He'd been multi-dating, dumped by them all. We'd chatted but he disappeared. He came back 2 weeks later and asked me out.
We've been together ever since 4 yrs.

Lol. Dumped by them all. Must have been a great catch!

HaggisBurger · 12/01/2023 14:18

Hadtochangeforthisone · 12/01/2023 06:03

Wafflesyrup Yes. We weren't very good at it. He was my only date and I was his.

Both thought it was the solution to managing unhappy marriages without disrupting the children's lives.

In reality we weren't cut out for adultery but it did make us both realise that our marriages had to end.

So we ended them and married each other. Our ex partners also married other people. We are all - children included , much happier. Sometimes you just end up with the wrong person.

Wow! Does anyone IRL know you met like that. Or that you were in an affair prior to ending your marriages? (No judgment here).

I might my DP on Tinder is my mid40s. It’s now more acceptable than it was (ie explaining that Tinder isn’t just a hook up site). I picked it because it was easy to set up.

Though I did also did Hinge and initially thought the calibre of men on it was better than Tinder.

shorttwoshot · 12/01/2023 15:43

Met in 2019 on Tinder, when I was 37 and he was 43. Still going very strong Grin

PrincessConstance · 12/01/2023 16:01

xfan · 12/01/2023 14:12

Lol. Dumped by them all. Must have been a great catch!

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I know he was being a snake, they cottoned on and within a period he was caught. 3 of them reappeared and continued to pursue him once we got together.

Sophie1980 · 12/01/2023 16:07

A friend is getting good replies on Feeld. Another has just signed up to Classic FM.

zonky · 12/01/2023 16:42

Sophie1980 · 12/01/2023 16:07

A friend is getting good replies on Feeld. Another has just signed up to Classic FM.

All women get good replies on sex sites, it's really not difficult sorry but this is no measure of a successful 'dating site' which Feeld isn't.

Original poster
Ilovemycatalot · 12/01/2023 17:29

Thanks for all the info still can’t decide which site to use but definitely tempted to try tinder as seems to be a lot of success stories and not just hook ups like I originally thought.

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TorviShieldMaiden · 12/01/2023 17:32

Tinder. I was 40s he was 50s.

boxingdayswim · 12/01/2023 17:54

Eharmony - back in 2009

Pompom2367 · 12/01/2023 17:54

Plenty of fish now two kids and mortgage and very happy together

GirlAtHome71 · 12/01/2023 18:45

Tinder 🥰 he was the only person I met for a date and 9 months on we're loved up! I never got any cranks or dick pics thankfully but I did make it clear I was looking for a relationship, my friend on POF wasn't so lucky 🤣. Just give it a go and good luck

Liveafr · 12/01/2023 19:11

We met on Fetlife 😇 I was mid 30's and him mid 20's. Two and half years later we are engaged and expecting our first baby.

SugarDatesandPistachios · 12/01/2023 22:51

blitzen · 10/01/2023 19:32

Match, 2012

Match! (2012) also.

TheBirdintheCave · 12/01/2023 22:55

I met my husband on OkCupid and two of my friends also met their spouses there. Another friend met her husband on Tinder :)

Hearmeout · 12/01/2023 23:10

Met my husband on Tinder 8 years ago, I was 43, he was 37,

Married 5 years now.

Tinder was originally I think the straight version of Grindr wasn't and the hook up label has stuck in a lot of peoples minds, usually though when people use it they realise it's just the same as any other site, some nice people, some not.

I think it's straightforwardness attracts a lot of people who just want to get out a meet someone with out all the arsing about writing long profiles etc

loupielou1 · 12/01/2023 23:10

I met me ex fiancé on pof. He was everything and more before he moved in. He asked me to marry him and was just the best thing I had ever met. But then I found out after 4years that he was a man child. I was literally just a mother to him. Wash his clothes, cook etc while he okayed on his games console and "go to sleep early" never was interested in getting physical after moving in and wasn't interested in spending time together. He came the opposite to what he was when we didn't live together. He always initiated seeing me etc when he lived with his family. He cheated on me by being on dating sites but for older men seeking women! Obviously I chucked him out and I was turned into the nasty person by his family... his friends and exs actually took my side as they knew all this before me. I will never use these online sites ever again as I feel now it's just people acting like they are more than they are! I would rather meet the old fashion way but that doesn't seem like it would be any easier nowadays either. Good luck. I've actually decided that I don't need a partner. All I need is me and a good vibrator!

Fireandflames666 · 12/01/2023 23:12

I met my current partner on a download festival group on Facebook. I wasn't even bothered about meeting anyone but up he popped one day making polite conversation about games and music, lol.

NotTheMrMenAgain · 12/01/2023 23:30

Met my lovely boyfriend two years ago on eHarmony - I was 45, he was 51. I didn’t really have any faith in the personality assessment questions and subsequent ‘matching’ process but it worked like magic for us!