Was I in the wrong? Husband in a huff obviously feels wronged

[BiscottiBiscotti]

for context we’ve both been I’ll since Christmas and are feeling a bit cooped up. Feeling a bit better and we’re taking dog for a walk with her in back of car.

I asked him how he was and semi joking said how’s the sex drive and he sai’oh that’s gone for ever’. I said that sounded a bit harsh to say it’s gone for ever., he said that’s not what he’d said, I said ‘it was exactly what you said’. So he slammed the brakes on, and thrust his head at me saying ‘just hit me then, why don’t you just beat me up?’

I just got out the car and went for a walk on my own. I was back about an hour later and he’s said 2 words and now gone out to see his family.

he’s got form for slamming the brakes on in The car when he’s stressed or frustrated or angry. Sometimes on quite busy roads.

I thought I was doing the right thing by just leaving him to it as he obviously wasn’t best chuffed with me,

The first time someone's emotions got the better of them behind a wheel of a car would be it for me.

But you continue to put up with it. I would explain calmly at home the if it happens one more time you will never get in the car with him driving again.

No animals were harmed. He loves the dog and she loves him.

Yeah he loves it so much he couldn’t care less about it getting flung about in the boot. Did the poor thing even get its walk in the end?

"How's the sex drive?" 😯

What a bizarre question to ask!

he’s got form for slamming the brakes on in The car when he’s stressed or frustrated or angry. Sometimes on quite busy roads.

He's done similar before, and you could reasonably expect him to do it again.

It can't just be going from normal healthy nothing to see here, to this, with nothing in between, but regardless there is no way I would be getting into the passenger sat with this person as a driver again.

@BiscottiBiscotti not sure how you don’t know if you are picking at someone or not. You’ve deliberately brought up a sore point. It’s really weird to do that. You seem passive aggressive and he seems hysterical. It’s not a good match.

Of course, every single man who is British behaves like this. If this comment was made about any other culture you would be called out, quite rightly, for being racist but nobody else has even cimmented on your post.

Actually I think you were the one being a ‘bit of a dick’. You asked him a very strange personal question whist he was driving. What did you expect would happen? It could be that he’s very worried about his sex drive, and you’re making fun of him.
Apologise for your insensitivity, sit down and talk to each other, then take it from there.

This.

I'd not ride in a car with him, ever.

@Bettyboop3, many of them do. I deal with data nearly every waking hour and know what it means to generalize. This kind of thing is only ever associated with British men or murderers on shows like Dateline. I cannot imagine what kind of parenting produces it.

Is that British men though from all four nations, all class backgrounds and all ethnic and racial groups? Can you pin it down.

What absolute bullshit.
What nationality is the delightful sounding man that you’re shacked up with out of interest?

@AutumnCrow, go right ahead and minimize it away if you like. If you're marrying/dating them, that means less competition for everyone else. I've never known a man from Wales well enough to judge and the 20 or so Scottish men I've known certainly seem better, but English and N. Irish men are very well known for temper, immaturity, use of alcohol as an excuse, and inability to take responsibility. Depression too and that's often related to immaturity and an inability to take responsibility for basic life decisions.

Be in denial if you like but this rule has served me and my friends well.

As a foreigner living in the UK for 6 years I agree with you, whenever I’ve dated a British man I felt I was dating a toddler. I find them very emotionally immature.

Depression too and that's often related to immaturity and an inability to take responsibility for basic life decisions.

Wow. I actually don’t have any words.

Can i ask for more detail on what makes you an expert on every single British man?

Was your alcoholic father British then @Anst?

It all sounds very bizarre.

Why is your sex life a trigger ?
If you know that,what was the point on raising the issue to start a row?

Slamming in the breaks is ridiculous and dangerous, why on earth would he just not pull over and ask you to get out if you are goading him.

Sounds like you need some help maybe as a couple to work out what's going on between you.

@Sandra1984, yup. It's common knowledge. It drives me to despair that so many women I know in the UK behave like the ones here and entrench themselves in denial. There are very real problems with parenting and particularly when it comes to raising girls who know who to avoid. It's incredibly sad and frustrating to watch.

@Bettyboop3, you don't want to know, you want to be in denial. And you're welcome to be. Please date a British man so that someone else doesn't have to!

@PinkSyCo, another great candidate for taking one off the market! You sound just as lovely as the people in this situation!

I'm very happily married to a British man thank you & he neither drinks nor slams his brakes on in temper!!

Who said he was British? (He probably is but I don’t think it’s been mentioned). What nationality produces the best men?

He sounds immature. I wouldn't find that attractive!

& i wouldn't have asked if i didn't want to know but as often happens on here you are chatting rude shit & give no valid explanations.

@BellePeppa, I can't generalize about anyone else. It's just such a strong trait among UK men to be immature and get in huffs. I cannot imagine being able to see a man in the same way after that kind of thing.