When a man has been "tricked" into getting someone pregnant, do they end up happy with the baby?

[allgonebellyup]

just wondering about my ex really.

His (much older,child-free) girlfriend told him she had a condition which meant she couldnt conceive, so they didnt use protection.
She is now 25wks pregnant and he is really dreading being a dad again as not ready and didnt want more children. He is sticking by his girlfriend but he seems so miserable.He wont talk (to me)about the baby and just wants to change the subject like its not happening.He says his kids he already has will always come first and the baby will have to come second. That may change when it's born though, no??

Do you think eventually he will grow to love the baby and not feel trapped?(he is not sure whether or not she tricked him, he half believes she didnt plan it)

He sounds vile, I pity his new girlfriend. To be honest you come accross like you are flattered by the fact that he says he still wants you, will love your children over his next baby and are relishing all the drama.

My xp claimed I'd tricked him into getting me pg when we had been as careless as each other . As all in good not-happy-ever-after, he walked away when I was about 13 wks pg. Nice.

In our case it didn't work out as a later reconcilation proved, but it's not to say it won't for all people.

I must admit I agree with Crush since I heard similar things said about me and it's pretty flattening to find people atually believe stuff like that. I don't know, maybe she did trick him or it was a genuine mistake. Either way, the baby is the most important person now. Imagine growing up, knowing you were 'second' best to your fahter's first family .

i know, i agree Bookworm.

Though my huge worry is that he will place his new baby and our ds first, and my poor dd (his step daughter who he adored before he moved out)will be all forgotten about.
Why cant he agree to love all 3 equally??

he probably will love all of them equally but practically, he can only spend his time with one or two children together.

it could be quite nice for your dcs to have another sibling later on as well .

but it wont be my dd's sibling, as my dh was her step dad. So that is making her feel even more left out.