Did you get over the awful thing they did?

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DP did something awful to me earlier this year, we split for a few months but we are back together.

I want to move past what he did, but every time I'm having a good time with him I remember and my mood instantly dropped. I'm angry and not over it.

Those of you who have decided to stay after they have done something awful, chested etc., how did you forgive them and move on? And how long did it take?

I want to make this work. So any tips welcome!

You'll probably need to post more context. Was the awful thing cheating? Were you lied to for a long time? Is he committed to making amends? Etc

Why do you want it to work if it made you feel so awful?

We were having some time apart, I found out I was pregnant and he said he wanted nothing to do with me or the baby if I kept it and blocked me.

Yeah l did stay but the relationship didn't last. We split up not long after. He turned nastier and l stopped liking who he turned out to be. Sorry to hear you are finding yourself in such dilemma. Its awful

He's shown you who he is and what he wants. Listen.

I'm sorry to say, it was a mistake to forgive him and try to make work. I can understand why you did (my opinion is based on experience) but there
are some things that you just don't say or do.

Is he the father of the baby? It's not clear.

I stayed with my ex after he did some awful things. Safe to say it didn’t last!

Sorry, I should've said I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks.

And he was the father.

I’m sorry to hear that OP. Did you get back together AFTER the miscarriage?

I wouldn't try to get past it. This one isn't a keeper.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time
As said Oprah and others. And I wish I'd heard this earlier
What would you think if someone else was going through the same as you?

Yes, we got back together after the miscarriage and after not speaking for about half a year.

I wouldn’t be able to get past that.

There’s no reason why you have to put any effort into getting past it.

How are you going to ever trust him to support you in anything ever again? He let you down at your most vulnerable time.

have ignored his text message. I'm hoping I can actually stay away this time
The whole thing is making me feel sick.

You wrote this 2 weeks ago. What’s the point in asking? You’re in an abusive relationship which you know is unhealthy and you keep going back.

I am so sorry for your loss. Do you have other DC?

There are almost 8 billion people in the world. There are certainly millions of potential partners who wouldn't dream of treating you this way. Have higher expectations. You deserve so much better.

This. How about starting 2023 without this toxic individual. You’ll only be back on here crying about his terrible treatment of you if you don’t… sorry op.

He doesn't sound a great choice for a long term partner if you want children in the future?

It sounds like your instincts are telling you to run for the hills. I hope you listen to it.

I spent years with someone who left me unhappy. I wasted years of my life and I regret it now. Please don't make my mistake.

I couldn’t get over that!!! I’d rather he cheated!!

Your stomach drops and your mood declines because your heart knows you don’t have no future with this man, it’s trying to get your brain to kick in and see it too So you act on it.

It’s being a single parent with this guy or find someone decent. I wouldn’t belive any stories he tries to spin you too, he will walk again if you get pregnant

That's incredibly cruel. There's no coming back from this.

I wouldn’t be able to get over that one OP, he’s shown you who he is. Sounds like he tried to manipulate you into a termination, and then has come back around now after you had a miscarriage. You’re worth more than that.

I think it woukd be difficult to see past this. Put yourself first.

Have some self respect and break up