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Did you get over the awful thing they did?

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aquapp · 23/12/2022 23:53

DP did something awful to me earlier this year, we split for a few months but we are back together.

I want to move past what he did, but every time I'm having a good time with him I remember and my mood instantly dropped. I'm angry and not over it.

Those of you who have decided to stay after they have done something awful, chested etc., how did you forgive them and move on? And how long did it take?

I want to make this work. So any tips welcome!

OP posts:

firstmummy2019 · 26/12/2022 19:22

aquapp · 25/12/2022 19:39

I love him. I know it's pathetic. I enjoy his company and he has many good qualities.

Yes, he did try and manipulate into an abortion. He and his family cut contact so that I felt I had no option but to terminate. After a few weeks he said he always intended to be involved if I kept it.

I didn't know if I was going to keep the baby or not. They all cut contact less than 24 hours after I had found out.

This is one of the most fucked up things I've heard on this site. You need this man and his family out of your life. Then you need to go to therapy to try and untangle how and why you got back with him.

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