Have name-changed, I know people will roll their eyes, probably.
So how the heck do you get over not being good enough for a man you seriously like/fancy, I won't say 'love' as you need to really know the person, but I feel like I loved him a while.
The point is, he likes me enough to chat just a little socially / flirt a little at times, used to be friendy on SM, we meet via a mutual interest where I've also met his older relative - and the relative and I get on really well, lots of chat etc.
With him it feels like the most natural thing in the world to just be close and hold the eye contact forever, BUT he's not asking me out. I've tried ages ago to ask him out without knowing he was in an LTR as i've only just met himat that point. He said he was busy but that by all means 'come and chat to me at the hobby thing'.
He's then become single after a few years but was away for ages, so I couldn't act on it then. I don't know if he's now single, not married for sure, but too awkward to ask. The relative has recently stopped coming to events so can't get any info.
Lastly, I'm considered attractive but I am older than him around 7yrs - I'm also relatively tall. I think his type is petite blondes but I'm just at a loss as to why wouldn't he even give it a chance by just going out ONCE to see how we get on and if he wants to meet again. As I say I definitely don't repel him going by the mild flirting /friendly chat, but ar some men wedded to a type, and won't get involved with others? Or set on 'no older women'?
I love his communication style and feel on same wavelength, plus I fancy him - I haen't met anyone els in years who has this combo for me. But if I'm not good enough to even try it out, I don't watn to be disrespectful and be direct again. What if he's not single again?
In any case how do you get over the rejection and start feeling good/positive about youreself? Yes I do have two men currently who ar showing some interest but one is 20yrs older, the other is nothing like as attractive as the one I like. I'm not 'young' so meeting single men in droves is not happening, but having met the one I really like, those that xrop up are no comparison.
Sorry it probably sounds stupid, but I just can't get my head around it - if I like a man generally speaking and like the look of him, I would give him a chance to go out and see how it goes, even if only friendship comes out of it.