Is anyone really happy?

[everydayisthesame]

I don't understand how anyone is actually happy with mundane daily life. I am married, no major problems with DH, just normal bickering. I have a child, lovely and kind but hard work. Have a career which challenges me and allows me to progress. Good relationship with family and friends but I just feel so blah. Every day feels the same, wake up, parent, work, random household duties (split between myself and DH), more parenting, probably bicker with DH, stress at dc for not listening, go to bed and do it all again. I'm bored and exhausted; seems so long ago that I felt really happy but cant identify what is making me feel this way other than boredom. I don't have hobbies or see people as much as I'd like because I'm tired all the time, especially in winter.

Do other people feel this way or is everyone else elated living the daily grind she having so much fun simply watching crap tv with partner / family?

[drivingavanbacknorth]

When you can find joy in the mundane, you've cracked it.

[Jepet]

This is what made me happier.

-Stopped playing the role of people pleaser.
-Stopped giving a shit about work and naturally reduced my hours to what I was being paid for ie 35 hrs, not 50!
-Cut down my drinking by 80%
-Got a dog which I had always wanted (This alone increased by happiness by a lot)

I never rely on other people for my happiness as I found that most people take you for granted and if you give too much they just expect more.

[CanCancanbefun]

A fellow sufferer here, different details but similar.
Nice to see Maslow quoted, but I suggest that there is more in the books that the diagrams we see in magazines.
Along with him and others there is a simple point made my Hertzberg:
Happiness and unhappiness are not at the opposite ends of a single line. There are two lines.
Happy to Not happy, and Unhappy to Not unhappy.
To achieve the happiness level we need an ambition the chance to work at that and achieve. Happiness or pleasure is the by-product of achievement.

[beekeeper4674]

Perimenopausal here. Can relate although expanding hobbies (which are largely solitary) and no job to speak of (I have been a sahm for longer than I can remember with no particular skillset). Fortunate to not have to work as such but I am bored (and isolated despite various efforts). Trying to create structure but it feels more like filling in time. Perimenopause definitely not helping. Underlying mental health issues (still waiting for treatment) making everything worse. On paper it could look good but it doesn't feel good.

[beekeeper4674]

Like the dog comment. Thinking about getting one later this year.