Do you think you and the oh are equally "attractive"

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Just that really. You always here the expression of "he/she is punching" implying an unequal level of attractiveness. Or things like "they look mismatched". I reckon dh and I are both averagely attractive so "go". Am I waffling?!

some people just aren't that good looking. yes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and you don't need to be conventionally attractive to be lusted after, but I think some people are just saying it as they see it.

When we got together I was beautiful and DH was rich. We weren’t the same level of physical good looks but we were the same level of attractiveness if you accept that money and status is part of attractiveness.

Now I’m fat and menopausal with a body damaged by childbirth. DH is even richer and higher status than before. So you could argue that my attractiveness has declined while his has increased.

I never understand flippant comments like this - if you don't think the OP is genuine then don't bother posting...

For me, it's more depressing hearing those say they're hot and remind their OH of the fact.

These two comments 100% 😂

I’m definitely punching, my husband is stunning, to the point that I found his looks a bit intimidating for the first few dates.

I am by far the more attractive one.

What? Why is it "all wrong"?

My DH definitely has the better face of the two of us. He's pretty skinny though which a lot of people aren't into.

@summerfinn

feminist
▸ noun - an advocate of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes;

Why would you not want men to be feminists?

We used to be! When we first met we were a. Attractive Couple. Now I'm old and fat with a saggy stomach and enormous eye bags and he is aging like a fucking god. It's only a matter of time before he wants a reset to a well matched partner again I reckon.
So yeh, I'm defo punching now. So unfair.

I am more conventionally better looking, but dh has a certain look/style and a very chrismatic personality. So I actually think he is a lot more attractive than me when thinking of the whole package.

I think my wife is better looking. She's naturally attractive without makeup and has some stunning features. She claims I'm the better looking and it annoys me as there is no way that is the case (9/10 for her and 7/10 for me)!

On the point about women with hotter guys ...I've an average looking female friend whose boyfriend is ridiculously attractive... I'm both perplexed and jealous 😆

I was more attractive but slightly older with kids. I have aged /gained weight so I would say dh is more attractive

Very much this.

Bigger flashier houses tend to have more attractive women in them.

written, from the confines of a small terraced house.

I think I'd be considered the more attractive one but as I'm considerably older than dh, we think it sort of makes us more or less equal!

@summerfinn

What a weird/appalling thing to say!!!

Most women "settle"

That’s a bit of an overarching statement, speak for yourself.

I think when I met my Girlfriend 7 years ago we were probably on a par with regards to attractiveness. We both have a looks that are indicative of a type. She is tall with a typically Jewish look, curly hair with a 'strong' nose and features. Myself bald, very tanned appearance, stocky, gold tooth...thuggish so I've been told! As you get older it's more important to be compatible as looks will inevitably fade.

What a load of nonsense!
DH is average looking, im quite pretty, approached a lot, people look.
All of DHs friends, my friends, strangers wondered and asked what im doing with him.
He wasnt my typical type, but hes just such an amazing person. Pure kindness and very entertaining. We were friends first and I just always loved how I felt when we were together. All of a sudden he asked me out. i was surprised first, because it never entered my mind, but then was wondering why not.
17 years later we are still happy as ever.

I’m definitely punching I’m not ashamed to admit it my DH is tall, amazing blue eyes and a walk that makes me watch his butt. I’m shorter and overweight good job I tick all his boxes 😜😜

I'm more physically attractive but he's the nicer person (and is much better paid).

I have a couple of (female) friends who are pretty average but married to men who look like models.

DH is exceptionally attractive (regularly commented on). I was pretty but no super model when I was younger, but certainly nothing special in middle age. I hate the 'mismatched' thing and this idea of punching above your weight. It implies that physical appearance is all that matters. I've never doubted the DH values me for certain qualities that are important to him.

my dh doesnt claim to be a feminist. thats my definition of him because he is one. completely supportive and doesnt tolerate any of that sexist crap calling it out when he comes across it. he is my absolute bloody hero

Me too. I think I'm goodlooking, always have. I don't expect or care if everyone else thinks I'm goodlooking but I really like my appearance. I assumed this was innate like loving your mother but I don't understand why anyone would pretend on an anonymous forum.