Do you think you and the oh are equally "attractive"

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Just that really. You always here the expression of "he/she is punching" implying an unequal level of attractiveness. Or things like "they look mismatched". I reckon dh and I are both averagely attractive so "go". Am I waffling?!

He is everything that's good in this world

That is such a beautiful thing to say. You are lucky.

The dogs comment really made me laugh!

Dh is totally punching and I remind him regularly 😂

I think we're the same. We both have this weird thing where sometimes we look.really good and the next day we look terrible.

i actually couldnt give a shiny what my husband looks like or what others think of him. he is a feminist, compassionate, funny, caring and makes me feel amazing.

What I found with online dating is that as a woman, I was constantly getting contacted by men who were about 2 rungs 'below' me on a scale of 1 to 10. (Note I don't place myself that highly on the scale before anyone says this is arrogant- it isn't, it's factual). I have alternated between thinking the arrogance and entitlement of men is fascinating and being incredibly insulted by it! I would only swipe on men I thought were my 'level'.

Those of you that say you're fugly really surprised me. Makes me sad people think that about themselves!

That's exactly how I feel about mine.

Seriously, most women 'settle'.so they can get married and have children? What century are we in, ffs?

Men or women can find loads of qualities in someone that attract them. I have never dated what people would call conventionally handsome men because that just doesn't do it for me. I'm far more emotionally and physically attracted to some who can make me laugh, who can hold an intelligent conversation, who shows emotional maturity, had passions etc. So yes, I've had it said in the past (and in current relationship) that 'I could do better" but I'm so attracted to him every day by his gorgeous eyes, his smile, the way he makes me laugh every day and how he treats me. I think he's absolutely beautifil inside and out. I certainly don't feel like I've settled just because other people think I might be slightly more conventionally "pretty'.

Oh my goodness this is me. Men are just so deluded! They don't care about a woman's qualities. I've had so many dates where I've known within 10 mins that they aren't for me but because I don't like awkwardness, I have to carry the conversation until it's an acceptable time to leave (yes, I'm a people pleaser). They always have a great time and want to see me again . How do men not understand that a relationship isn't one way and they actually need to contribute something.

Dh is a bit younger and is ageing better anyway. I might get myself an attractive dog though.

He's punching but I fancy the pants off him.

'How do men not understand that a relationship isn't one way and they actually need to contribute something'
@sussexlife
I absolutely agree with you, but given some of the absolute losers women stay with on mumsnet threads, many don't have to contribute anything other than being a man!

I was the good-looking (and younger) one when we met. Now, I’m a menopausal old witch…

20 years ago he was punching without a doubt!! Now, we appear to be on equal measure with me punching slightly. He is getting stunning the more he ages!! I am very much not! In 5-10 years it’s definitely going to be me who is punching. His aging like a fine wine!

I’d say we about the same,

my DH was overweight but otherwise very handsome when we met. He’s even heavier now and bald. I was a size 10 and have good teeth, hair, small nose etc so reasonably pretty- Was a dancer back in the day. I’m a size 12/14 now but have the same look , just a few fine lines here and there from the kids :) I don’t think I’ve ever cared what he looked like, he is an incredibly talented, practical , useful and reliable guy, he has endless patience with kids and with me! We’re also both boring, lazy fuckers most of the time, so there is zero drama in my house. We got into ‘old person’ mode early and it’s great!
I wouldn’t swap that for the world. People have commented in the past about us. We just stopped talking to them. We only see the kids and my siblings now, absolute bliss.

I’d say swings and roundabouts for us. OH and I are the same age but he looks quite a bit older than me with his all-weather wrinkles and rather large bald spot bless him. But he is a lot fitter and slimmer than me, I’m a typical plump mum with lumpy bits whereas he has a very sexy pert little bum and legs…..gets me every time lol! I personally don’t think I’m particularly attractive and I wear glasses but lots of people say I have a nice smile.

I know the feeling! 🙄😂

Attraction is not just about looks

You can look like a model & be boring with no sense of humour & unkind

It's about the whole package

I sometimes look at my DH and this he's the hottest man on the planet, other times I think he's Fugly. Depends on whether he's had a haircut, shave, what he's wearing/doing etc.

I might be the same to him, I don't know 🤷🏼‍♀️

I'd say we are pretty much equally attractive. We are both tall and I think sometimes looking at us we look related.

Men that claim to be a feminist make me shudder 🤢 it's all wrong

Yeah I'm not bad, dh is alright too

Hmm. I was just over 30 when we met and he was just over 40. I was (looking back) physically far more attractive - whereas he was funny, kind and solvent, but no oil painting. He thought I was beautiful. And I thought he was amazing after my dickhead ex.

Now we are almost 30 years down the line - and he's still funny and kind and hasn't really aged that much.

I, on the other hand, am post menopause, about 5 stone heavier, grey haired and definitely not the woman he met.

We are still very much in love, however.